I am a fan of Susan’s first book, Parenting Without Power Struggles. I hand it out to friends and require any nanny we hire to read it. In Parenting Without Power Struggles, Susan talks about parents being captains of the ship with loving, calm, presence. Now, in Parenting with Presence, Susan explores in greater detail what causes us as parents to go into “lawyer” or “dictator” mode. “It’s an internal experience. It’s the place inside of us that often is informed, or influenced by our own childhoods.