Once you have explored why you want a relationship and what you are looking for, you are ready to learn how to find a healthy one. A healthy relationship is considered interdependent, while an unhealthy relationship is considered codependent.

A codependent relationship is one in which both partners are dependent on each other for their identity and the fulfillment of their emotional needs. This type of relationship can create unhealthy family dynamics to include domestic violence and substance abuse.

An interdependent relationship is one in which each partner is whole and complete. They know who they are and have developed an independent lifestyle. Now they are ready to share their lives with another partner who has also created an independent life. Interdependency means each individual maintains their own individual identity while at the same time creating a shared life together.