How do you beat a bully? No, I’m not saying that you should go learn karate and beat up a bully physically. What I’m saying is, how do you stop a bully from bullying you? How do you make him think that you are not worth all the trouble? Here are some ways in how to deal with bullies.

 

Avoid the bully

The first thing you should be doing is avoid the bully as much as possible. Of course, you should not try to sprint away after the both of you make eye contact. Trying to run away would only make things worse as the bully would chase you and hurt you, or you could even get into an accident while you are running in reckless abandon. What you should be doing is to subtly avoid your bully. Don’t let him know that you are avoiding him on purpose, or he will go out of his way to find you. Just try to avoid places were your bully hangs out.

 

Act normally when the bully is confronting you

Don’t show the bully you are afraid of him or that he is annoying you. If you have to, joke around and catch the bully off guard. By showing agitation you are letting the bully know that he is succeeding in causing you pain and that would make him/her bully you more. Just walk away and pretend nothing happened, or better yet act like the bully isn’t even there.

 

Tell someone

If you are bullied you should talk to someone about it. You shouldn’t bottle up your feelings inside. Telling someone actually makes you feel less alone, and they can also help you make a plan on how to stop the bullying.

You can also tell an adult you can trust. You can talk to the school administrators for example. They can find a way to make the bullying stop as soon as possible either by punishing the bully or setting up a mediation to resolve the issue.

 

Be in a group

You should think about joining a group who shares the same interests as you. This reasoning is simple. Bullies tend to look for easy targets, so if you are walking alone you may as well paint a target on your back. Avoid isolating yourself. Be with friends.

With the rise of social networking websites and forums, cyberbullying has become quite common too. You should never respond to cyberbullying attacks. These internet “trolls” spend their time antagonizing people behind their keyboards, and they get quite satisfied whenever they can provoke a reaction from their victims. Let them say bad things about you, they can’t see you face to face anyway. Better yet, report them to service providers.

Remember never to think that no one likes you, keep your chin up and show confidence in yourself. Do not engage a bully in a fight and keep yourself safe. Whatever you do never stoop to their level. If they try to provoke you into a fight, avoid escalating the situation and simply walk away.

 

Sources

http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Bullying

http://www.greatschools.org/parenting/bullying/64-stamp-out-bullying.gs

http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Being-Bullied

http://www.stopbullying.gov/kids/what-you-can-do/

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