As her husband of 23 years goes in for an experimental treatment survivors call MOAS – ‘Mother of All Surgeries’ – for a rare cancer of the appendix, Lea prepares for a tough recovery. In addition to a lengthy physical recovery, complications leave Richard with a brain injury that leaves him with profound memory loss. “The man we knew as Richard died to us,” Lea writes. “And with his former self, any notion of an ‘us’”. Lea’s account of her loss, and her adjustment to the new man her husband has become, is unflinching, as is her detailed account of their life together as she remembers it. The gradual evolution of their new life together becomes, in the end, a love story. “My husband shows me that the fundamental nature of being here – on earth, in love, within the sexual experience – is joyful.”
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