The scenario: You are at the local pool with your children. A man with a swastika tattoo walks by. You are offended by this tattoo, so you talk to the pool manager. The manager tells you that she can ask the man to put on a shirt, but she cannot force the man to cover up.

She asks. He refuses.

Do you approach the man yourself? Do you leave?

A friend went through this dilemma. She stayed.

I brought BaoBao and my niece to a different pool when they were both 7-years-old. They were in line for one of the water slides when they noticed that the very large and intimidating man in front of them had a tattoo of a naked woman on his back.

The little girls started talking to each other about how the tattoo was icky and stupid, and how a grown man should know better than to get a tattoo like that, and how a nice man would wear a shirt over such a tattoo when he was around children.

I watched that man wince with each word they spoke.

Perhaps he was already embarrassed by his tattoo choice. (One study showed that 70-percent of people regret getting a tattoo.)

Perhaps their words made him think about how men with integrity behave around others.

Would words from others make a difference to a man with a large swastika on his chest?

Would your reaction be different if the tattoo spelled out the “N” word, or a curse word?

If people with inappropriate tattoos can be made to cover those tattoos at water parks, who gets to decide what is ‘inappropriate’?