Victoria’s answer to “I read many of your Ghost Hunters series, and I loved Coached to Death. However, I was so disappoin…” > Likes and Comments
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I have had some wonderful experiences communicating with authors and never have I received a reply as defensive and heated at yours. I am truly sorry if you were offended. That is not my intention. I have found that most authors seem to enjoy feedback and I often write to express my appreciation. As I stated, I am grateful to you for the many hours of enjoyment you have given me reading your books. I just have always felt strongly that a woman's sexuality is to be treasured, rather than being handed out like candy. Many authors are open to a discussion regarding their books, even if the responses are not always glowingly complementary. The very best to you--Maryann
I very much like your reply. It was very inappropriate of this author as I like her other series with Abby.
Maryann, this is a comment that would be more appropriate for a book-club discussion, not as a question posed to the author as a reprimand of her beliefs because they don’t coincide with your beliefs. And both of you are entitled to each of your beliefs, but you aren’t entitled to make the author feel bad for not sharing your beliefs. You might not realize it, but you are basically “moral shaming” Victoria, and that just ain’t right.
You’ve lived a different life from Victoria and a different life from me. I absolutely love funny sexual innuendo, and to me, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a single woman exploring her sexuality and expressing it the way she sees fit. I’ve done the same thing as Cat after getting out of an abusive relationship, and again, ain’t nothing wrong with that. Books are a chance to explore other people’s lives, to see how other people might react in situations we may never have been in ourselves. It’s a chance to live in another’s skin. You don’t have to like it, and you might not do it yourself, but that doesn’t make it wrong. It’s just different.
Thank you, Cindy. Very well said and I so appreciate you bringing some levelheadedness to the discussion. Also, Maria, I am part of this conversation. Saying, "this author" in your comment does not remove me from the conversation - and it's a passive aggressive way of attempting to dehumanize me. I'm a person. I'm contributing to the conversation. Bringing some respect into the conversation would be nice. Also, I am allowed to stand up for myself and my writing, and I really don't appreciate you trying to dehumanize me to my face. Do better. Last, Maryann, what Cindy said. All of it.
Well thank you for your response Victoria but I have decided not to read any more of your books.
Wonderful, Maria. I'm delighted to hear it!
Maria is taking her ball and going home, so THERE! That’ll learn ya! smh
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I have had some wonderful experiences communicating with authors and never have I received a reply as defensive and heated at yours. I am truly sorry if you were offended. That is not my intention. I have found that most authors seem to enjoy feedback and I often write to express my appreciation. As I stated, I am grateful to you for the many hours of enjoyment you have given me reading your books. I just have always felt strongly that a woman's sexuality is to be treasured, rather than being handed out like candy. Many authors are open to a discussion regarding their books, even if the responses are not always glowingly complementary. The very best to you--Maryann
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I very much like your reply. It was very inappropriate of this author as I like her other series with Abby.
Maryann, this is a comment that would be more appropriate for a book-club discussion, not as a question posed to the author as a reprimand of her beliefs because they don’t coincide with your beliefs. And both of you are entitled to each of your beliefs, but you aren’t entitled to make the author feel bad for not sharing your beliefs. You might not realize it, but you are basically “moral shaming” Victoria, and that just ain’t right. You’ve lived a different life from Victoria and a different life from me. I absolutely love funny sexual innuendo, and to me, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a single woman exploring her sexuality and expressing it the way she sees fit. I’ve done the same thing as Cat after getting out of an abusive relationship, and again, ain’t nothing wrong with that. Books are a chance to explore other people’s lives, to see how other people might react in situations we may never have been in ourselves. It’s a chance to live in another’s skin. You don’t have to like it, and you might not do it yourself, but that doesn’t make it wrong. It’s just different.
Thank you, Cindy. Very well said and I so appreciate you bringing some levelheadedness to the discussion. Also, Maria, I am part of this conversation. Saying, "this author" in your comment does not remove me from the conversation - and it's a passive aggressive way of attempting to dehumanize me. I'm a person. I'm contributing to the conversation. Bringing some respect into the conversation would be nice. Also, I am allowed to stand up for myself and my writing, and I really don't appreciate you trying to dehumanize me to my face. Do better. Last, Maryann, what Cindy said. All of it.
Well thank you for your response Victoria but I have decided not to read any more of your books.
Wonderful, Maria. I'm delighted to hear it!
Maria is taking her ball and going home, so THERE! That’ll learn ya! smh
