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I do the same — avoid hot button issues — but am bothered by the inauthenticity, the distancing, of the big don’t-go-there black hole in those relationships. No answer, just bothered. Every now and then, when the circumstances are just right, it has helped the relations to ask how did you come to your conclusion. Not what the conclusion is, but the why and the how. That HAS created a more authentic relationship…although, as you point out, no-one’s mind gets changed.
This is so true, so many people love to argue. I wish it were possible to have an informative conversation on some of these hot-button issues. But so few people actually have new and helpful information to add to these topics (including me), so such conversations tend to devolve into debate and the need to be right.
i very much enjoyed your answer. i would like to address just one point. that is "obamacare". can we correct that useage and call it for what it really is, "affordable care act", also known as, "aca". thank you.
“Nearly everywhere –
often even when dealing with purely technical problems –
instead of thinking, one merely takes sides:
for or against.
Such a choice replaces the activity of the mind.
This is an intellectual leprosy;
it originated in the political world
and then spread through the land,
contaminating all forms of thinking.
This leprosy is killing us;
it is doubtful whether it can be cured
without first starting with the
abolition of all political parties.”
― Simone Weil, On the Abolition of All Political Parties
Whereas Weil was writing after WWII, this fella was already 'pondering such perdicaments' in mid 1800s: wonder what either'd have to say Now?]: “People demand
freedom of speech
as a compensation for
the freedom of thought
which they seldom use.”
― Søren Kierkegaard
Very wise words and especially true on social media of any kind!
I don't believe in discussing most things these days, because everything is a debate topic, even the most trivial of subject matters. Always hated my whole life as well. There is no use in it.
I believe in having my thoughts, but being able to make them the only thing I can actually take to my grave. And no one should be able to take that option away from me through any means.
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I do the same — avoid hot button issues — but am bothered by the inauthenticity, the distancing, of the big don’t-go-there black hole in those relationships. No answer, just bothered. Every now and then, when the circumstances are just right, it has helped the relations to ask how did you come to your conclusion. Not what the conclusion is, but the why and the how. That HAS created a more authentic relationship…although, as you point out, no-one’s mind gets changed.
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This is so true, so many people love to argue. I wish it were possible to have an informative conversation on some of these hot-button issues. But so few people actually have new and helpful information to add to these topics (including me), so such conversations tend to devolve into debate and the need to be right.
i very much enjoyed your answer. i would like to address just one point. that is "obamacare". can we correct that useage and call it for what it really is, "affordable care act", also known as, "aca". thank you.
“Nearly everywhere – often even when dealing with purely technical problems –
instead of thinking, one merely takes sides:
for or against.
Such a choice replaces the activity of the mind.
This is an intellectual leprosy;
it originated in the political world
and then spread through the land,
contaminating all forms of thinking.
This leprosy is killing us;
it is doubtful whether it can be cured
without first starting with the
abolition of all political parties.”
― Simone Weil, On the Abolition of All Political Parties
Whereas Weil was writing after WWII, this fella was already 'pondering such perdicaments' in mid 1800s: wonder what either'd have to say Now?]: “People demand freedom of speech
as a compensation for
the freedom of thought
which they seldom use.”
― Søren Kierkegaard
Very wise words and especially true on social media of any kind!
I don't believe in discussing most things these days, because everything is a debate topic, even the most trivial of subject matters. Always hated my whole life as well. There is no use in it. I believe in having my thoughts, but being able to make them the only thing I can actually take to my grave. And no one should be able to take that option away from me through any means.
