SD asked Jeff Hobbs:

This book reads as a labor of love in honor of a lost friend, but you also candidly mentioned your temporarily stalled writing career. Did you experience any internal struggle transitioning from Rob's friend to Shawn's biographer? Would Rob have wanted his story told? Did it ever feel like retelling his story for your gain? I don't believe this was your aim, but I also don’t know how you’d escape these worries.

Jeff Hobbs Hello, you bring up a very valid concern for readers, as well as an undercurrent that I've struggled with throughout the last few years, and still do. Was I a friend who, stunned and in mourning, sought to give Rob's life the meaning that the circumstances of his death so suddenly ripped from it? Or was I a writer exploiting these circumstances in order to publish a book? Obviously, the answer is the former -- and something worth mentioning is that, in accordance with Jackie Peace's wishes, the proceeds from this book are going toward a scholarship to St. Benedict's prep. But even so, how to escape the residue of the latter? When I first sat down with Jackie Peace to discuss finding and telling Rob's story (this was a little over three years ago), I said that I, and the many dozens of people who loved Rob, wanted to tell the story of his life, not his death. And I told her that there was minimal chance of this story ever being published, but at the very least some record would exist, even if it was a stack of looseleaf paper in her attic. I added that even if it was in fact published, there wasn't a significant readership for a book like this (not exactly beach reading). This was a story told out of grief, guilt -- and love. The fact that, three years of fairly grueling and emotionally difficult work later, this book has been published, reviewed well, and read by a few, is a tribute and testament to what a huge character Rob was, and to his special skill at connecting to just about everyone. It also means that I did the hard work and then stayed out of the way of it well enough to allow him to continue doing that. I'm proud of that, but this is a collective triumph of many people, Jackie Peace above all. But still, I can't take my name off the cover of the book, or do much to allay the suspicions of anyone inclined to question the intention here. My hope is that the book and my role in it speaks for itself in that way. As for your other question, which is a more interesting one -- whether or not Rob would have wanted his story told -- that has also been a struggle, because as you read in the book, he was a private guy. But he was also a teacher -- a pretty great teacher -- and if his story can be used to impact people, particularly young people, and illuminate the invisible burdens that so many people of all backgrounds carry, we all came to feel that he would put himself forward, bravely, in this way. He had a real talent for drawing people outside of the bubbles we all inhabit day by day. And the hope all along is that he might continue to do just that.

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