Do you believe in soul mates? Do you have one?

Dani Collins Hi Cynthia,

Great question!

I'm married to my high school sweetheart and I would definitely say we are connected in ways that go beyond any of my other relationships. We know each other's thoughts and the quickest way to make the other laugh. We share similar views about the way the world should run.

I don't know if that's due to spending some thirty (!) years together, or if we were drawn together because we were already on the same wavelength.

Either way, he's my best friend yet often my opposite in ways that perfectly compliment me. Eg. He is grounded and says he's a realist (I say pessimist) whereas I'm flighty and ever so hopeful and idealistic (he says delusional.) He likes facts, I like gut feelings.

Those sorts of things round us out for each other so as a team, we're well-equipped in this world (in my ever so optimistic opinion!)

I sometimes worry that people think 'soul mate' means 'perfect' and wind up with expectations that can't be met, though. You can't go this long in a relationship without some disagreements and flat out thinking your partner is WRONG at certain times.

But I think if you're able to find someone with similar core values to your own who also balances your weaknesses with some strength (I'm horribly impulsive. He is infinitely patient!) then you've found the right person for you.

What about you? Have you found your other half?

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