“definition of trauma is something so overwhelming that we can’t process it emotionally at the time it happens. Even the strongest people may struggle with processing those emotions later. Indeed, stronger people are more likely to push aside their feelings so they can act to get themselves out of the bad situation. Which is exactly what you did. But those feelings don’t just go away, not until we let ourselves feel them, so we can get them out of our systems. And telling ourselves it’s over or that we shouldn’t feel that way doesn’t work.” The waitress chose that moment to bring their food.”