“Regardless of another person’s intent, when we are hurt, we respond by embodying one of the three roles. When we respond by playing the victim, we consciously or unconsciously want sympathy, and hope that someone will take care of us. Alternatively, we may respond by becoming angry and aggressive, striking preemptively before anyone can hurt us again. This is what happens when the role of bully or persecutor is taken. The third possibility is that we feel hurt or stressed, and respond by taking care of others, rescuing them from the difficulty, and in so doing, feed our own ego.”