“The expression of grief may be a key stage in the mourning process, but it is not the ultimate goal. We still have to characterise the pain, revisit our mistakes, uncover our excesses, understand our anger and our humiliation.
We will have to drain the cup of our failures to the dregs and accept its bitterness.
We will have to understand the evil eating away at us to hope to defeat it and finally find peace.
We will have to let go of our dead, unburden them of the weight of our anguish, render them justice to secure their support.
Too much blood has been spilled. Pretence is a luxury we can no longer afford.
Grieving entails this brutal confrontation between the inevitable end and life that must go on. Only then does loss fortify the community rather than impoverish it. It strengthens and safeguards the living. It enables them to celebrate life once again.”