“One additional piece of the coming out puzzle also fascinated me: the idea that the process, in and of itself, meant that I was announcing to family and friends what I liked to do in the bedroom. To my knowledge, none of my straight friends had similar burdens: “Mom, I love to be tied up!” or “Hey, Sis, did you know that nothing makes me happier than having my clitoris stimulated with a vibrating rod?” weren’t conversational sentiments among my heterosexual counterparts. I, on the other hand, had to accept the responsibility of announcing that I liked to have a man’s penis in my mouth.”