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#1

“But if we are truly happy inside, then age brings with it a maturity, a depth, and a power that only magnifies our radiance.”
― David Deida, Intimate Communion: Awakening Your Sexual Essence

tags: aging

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#2

“To terrify children with the image of hell, to consider women an inferior creation—is that good for the world?”
― Christopher Hitchens

tags: atheism, child-abuse, children, feminism, hell, religion, religion-and-children, rhetorical-questions, sexism, women, women-and-religion

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#3

“The words with which a child’s heart is poisoned, whether through malice or through ignorance, remain branded in his memory, and sooner or later they burn his soul.”
― Carlos Ruiz Zafón, The Shadow of the Wind

tags: child, criticism, memory, verbal-abuse, words

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#4

“A statue stands in a shaded place
An angel girl with an upturned face
A name is written on a polished rock
A broken heart that the world forgot”
― Martina Mcbride

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#5

“Let us be the ones who say we do not accept that a child dies every three seconds simply because he does not have the drugs you and I have. Let us be the ones to say we are not satisfied that your place of birth determines your right for life. Let us be outraged, let us be loud, let us be bold.”
― Brad Pitt

tags: child-abuse, children, health-care, healthcare, medicine, neglect

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#6

“The wounded recognized the wounded.”
― Nora Roberts, Rising Tides

tags: child-abuse, wounded

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#7

“Faith is why I'm here today and faith is why I made it through.”
― Jonathan Anthony Burkett, Neglected But Undefeated: The Life Of A Boy Who Never Knew A Mother's Love

tags: 2013, child-abuse, determined, faith, hard-times, hate, life-quotes, love, money, music, neglect, struggle

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#8

“Everyone has the right to tell the truth about her own life.”
― Ellen Bass, The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse

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#9

“Instead of treating your child like how you were treated. Treat them with the same love and attention you wanted from your parents while growing up.”
― Jonathan Anthony Burkett, Neglected But Undefeated: The Life Of A Boy Who Never Knew A Mother's Love

tags: abuse, bad-parenting, beating, inspirational-quotes, jonathan-anthony-burkett, kids, lesson-in-life, mistreatment, neglected-but-undefeated, parenthood, parenting, treatment

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#10

“The fact is that far more crime and child abuse has been committed by zealots in the name of God, Jesus and Mohammed than has ever been committed in the name of Satan. Many people don’t like that statement, but few can argue with it.”
― Carl Sagan quoting Kenneth V. Lanning

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#11

“Mind control is built on lies and manipulation of attachment needs.”
― Valerie Sinason, Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

tags: attachment, deprivation-of-rights, dissociative-identity-disorder, lies, manipulation, mind-control, operant-conditioning, ritual-abuse, torture, trauma-bonding

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#12

“A thousand times today I've started to open my mouth, started to squeak out, "Can you tell me...? But then I'd look into the front seat, at my mother's silent shaking, my father's grim profile, the mournful bags under his eyes, and all the questions I might ask seemed abusive. Assault and battery, a question mark used like a club. My parents are old and fragile. I'd have to heartless to want to hurt them.”
― Margaret Peterson Haddix, Double Identity

tags: child, crying, discomfort, fear, feelings, parents, protectiveness, silence, suppress

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#13

“On top of the abuse and neglect, denial heaps more hurt upon the child by requiring the child to alienate herself from reality and her own experience. In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted; it's the talking about them that is forbidden.”
― Marcia Sirota

tags: abuse, alienation, child-abuse, childhood-abuse, denial, deny, family-secrets, forbidden, hidden, incest, neglect, parenting, pretend, reality, secret

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#14

“Violators cannot live with the truth: survivors cannot live without it. There are those who still, once again, are poised to invalidate and deny us. If we don't assert our truth, it may again be relegated to fantasy. But the truth won't go away. It will keep surfacing until it is recognized. Truth will outlast any campaigns mounted against it, no matter how mighty, clever, or long. It is invincible. It's only a matter of which generation is willing to face it and, in so doing, protect future generations from ritual abuse.”
― Chrystine Oksana, Safe Passage to Healing: A Guide for Survivors of Ritual Abuse

tags: abusers, child-abuse, child-protection, child-sexual-abuse-lies, deny, fantasy, invalidate, invalidation, media-campaign, media-distortions, perpetrators, propaganda, rape, ritual-abuse, sexual-abuse, society-denial, survivors, truth-violators, victims

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#15

“Young girls are like helpless children in the hands of amorous men, whatever is said to them is true and whatever manipulation on their bodies seems like love to them, sooner or later, they come back to their senses, but the scars are not dead inasmuch as her spoiler lives.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson, Scars Of Beauty

tags: amorous, amorous-men, beauty, bodies, body, children, corruption, daughters, discover, discovering, falling, female, girls, immaturity, immoral, immorality, lecher, lecherous, love, lust, lustful, manipulate, manipulation, maturity, men, michael-bassey-johnson, naive, puberty, pubescence, scars, sense, senses, sex, sexual-abuse, sexual-intercourse, sexy, vagina, woman, women, woo

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#16

“a quick turn around a corner
and my planet becomes sand
on the shore of a dying Universe”
― S. Kelley Harrell, The Journey of Healing: Wisdom From Survivors of Sexual Abuse, A Literary Anthology

tags: assault-survival, healing, sexual-abuse

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#17

“By the nineteenth century, society had given up burning witches. Yet the sexual exploitation of children continued. In late-nineteenth-century Britain, for example, men who raped young girls were excused because they did it to cure venereal disease. There was a widely held belief that children would take "poisons" out of the body. In fact, leprosy, venereal disease, depression, and impotence were part of a wide range of maladies believed cured by having sex with the young. An English medical text of the time reads, "Breaking a maiden's seal is one of the best antidotes for one's ills. Cudgeling her unceasingly, until she swoons away, is a mighty remedy for man's depression. It cures all impotence.”
― Patrick J. Carnes, Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred

tags: 19th-century, sexual-abuse

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#18

“Now they're really amused, and burst into laughter. Someone tries a variation while still clapping hands: 'Clipped prick… clipped prick.' Whereupon they begin alternating while clapping their hands: 'Jew… Clipped prick… Jew… Clipped prick.' It seems they're no longer angry, merely having a good time. I keep bouncing in the chair and moaning as the electric shocks penetrate [....]”
― Jacobo Timerman, Prisoner without a Name, Cell without a Number

tags: argentina, esma, sadism, sexual-abuse, torture

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#19

“Denial can be a most useful, temporary shield. Unfortunately, such flimsy armor will not last a lifetime. It is best to face your past, and do so quickly, before your past returns to face you.”
— André Chevalier”
― Nikki Sex, Accuse

tags: abuse, coping-mechanism, denial, denial-of-abuse, sexual-abuse

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#20

“Being Scared-off by Evil

Lastly, we deny the presence of evil because we are terriﬁed by the horrendously hurtful, cruel, and bloody kinds of evil people tell us about—if we are willing to listen. This was poignantly brought home during an interdisciplinary case conference involving a resident who was counseling for the ﬁrst time a woman who had been sexually abused. As we worked with him, it became clear that he was resisting entering what he called the 'psychic cave" of her sealed—off experience from which she was shouting for assistance. Because of his resistance, he was not providing her the support and guidance she so desperately needed, and he was not facilitating her working through the abuse and hurt that were continuing to impact her life. As he was confronted about this at one point in the conference, he stated tearfully: "I'm afraid if I help her move into her memories. I will have to go with her, and if I go with her, my view of the world as a basically good and safe place will be shattered. I'm not sure I can handle that for myself, or be able to think about the fact that my wife and kids may be more vulnerable living in this world than I can be comfortable believing" (Means 1995, 299).”
― J. Jeffrey Means, Trauma and Evil: Healing the Wounded Soul

tags: abuse, child-abuse, child-sexual-abuse, counseling, evil, fear, just-world, just-world-beliefs, mental-illness, nature-of-the-world, psychotherapy, ptsd, rapid, sexual-abuse, survivor, victim, vulnerability, worldview

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#21

“Abuse is a parasite that feeds off hate and shame, growing in size and strength with silence.”
― Nikki Sex, Accuse

tags: abuse, sexual-abuse, shame, survivors-of-abuse

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#22

“Until we accept that our children have much more of a risk of being sexually abused than drowning in a pool, being struck by a car, stricken with cancer, hurt by a vaccination, or diagnosed with ebola, we contribute to a culture of panic and ignorance.”
― Ann Brasco

tags: child-abuse, child-abuse-denial, parenting, parenting-children, sexual-abuse

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#23

“Hiding my pain and acting strong, afraid to cry and show my tears, I struggle with all this years later.”
― Erin Merryn, Living for Today: From Incest and Molestation to Fearlessness and Forgiveness

tags: abuse, child-abuse, childhood-sexual-abuse, coping, fear, pain, ptsd, sexual-abuse, tears, trauma, trigger, triggering

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#24

“The very first part in healing is shattering the silence,”
― Erin Merryn, Living for Today: From Incest and Molestation to Fearlessness and Forgiveness

tags: abuse-survivor, child-abuse, child-sexual-abuse, erin-merryn-healing, sexual-abuse, silence, trigger, warning

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#25

“In the 1890s, when Freud was in the dawn of his career, he was struck by how many of his female patients were revealing childhood incest victimization to him. Freud concluded that child sexual abuse was one of the major causes of emotional disturbances in adult women and wrote a brilliant and humane paper called “The Aetiology of Hysteria.” However, rather than receiving acclaim from his colleagues for his ground-breaking insights, Freud met with scorn. He was ridiculed for believing that men of excellent reputation (most of his patients came from upstanding homes) could be perpetrators of incest.
Within a few years, Freud buckled under this heavy pressure and recanted his conclusions. In their place he proposed the “Oedipus complex,” which became the foundation of modern psychology. According to this theory any young girl actually desires sexual contact with her father, because she wants to compete with her mother to be the most special person in his life. Freud used this construct to conclude that the episodes of incestuous abuse his clients had revealed to him had never taken place; they were simply fantasies of events the women had wished for when they were children and that the women had come to believe were real. This construct started a hundred-year history in the mental health field of blaming victims for the abuse perpetrated on them and outright discrediting of women’s and children’s reports of mistreatment by men.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

tags: abuse, abusive-men, child-abuse, incest, sexual-abuse, victim-blaming

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#26

“As recently as 1975, a basic American psychiatry textbook estimated that the frequency of all forms of incest as one case per million. [James Henderson, "Incest", in A. M. Freedman, H.I. Kaplan and B.J. Sadock, eds., Comprehensive Textbook of Psychiatry, 2nd ed. 1975 p. 1532.]”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Father-Daughter Incest

tags: child-rape, child-sexual-abuse, denial-of-child-abuse, incest, psychiatry, sexual-abuse, society-denial

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#27

“She was so upset about a blog that maybe a total of six people read yet had no compassion for her granddaughters who had suffered the physical and emotional pains of sexual abuse and whose lives were changed forever. The two cannot even be compared, yet when someone is in denial about what happened, they cannot perceive what is true. It seemed too hard for her to let her mind go there and believe her grandson could do such terrible things.”
― Erin Merryn, Living for Today: From Incest and Molestation to Fearlessness and Forgiveness

tags: child-rape, child-rapist, child-sexual-abuse, child-sexual-abuse-survivor, denial, disbelief, dysfunctional-families, dysfunctional-family, family, incest, lack-of-compassion, lack-of-empathy, lack-of-support, pedophile-protectots, rape, rape-culture, sexual-abuse, speak-out, trigger, trigger-warning, victim-blaming

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#28

“A child has a greater chance of being sexually abused than burned in a fire. Along with stop, drop, and roll we must teach them to yell, run, and tell.”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch

tags: awareness, children, kids, parenting, prevention, sexual-abuse, teaching-children

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#29

“Imagine the message that sent to my sister and me. A cousin violates us, confesses, and walks away with barely a slap on the wrist. I learned at a young age that if I was ever going to see justice for the wrongs done to me, I had to find it myself.”
― Erin Merryn, Living for Today: From Incest and Molestation to Fearlessness and Forgiveness

tags: abuse-survivor, awareness, child-rape, child-rapist, child-sexual-abuse, child-sexual-abuse-survivor, crime, incest, injustice, inspirational, juvenile-delinquency, rape, rape-culture, rape-of-a-child, rape-survivor, raped, sexual-abuse, trigger, violation

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#30

“I was just four when a hired teenage field hand attempted to molest me. Miraculously, I got away, and I told my dad. My father made three important choices that day: He listened to me, he believed me, and he took action. I was one of the fortunate ones--I had a childhood.”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch

tags: awareness, believed, childhood, childhood-sexual-abuse, children, choices, encouragement, father, kids, listen, memoir, molested, parenting, prevention, sexual-abuse, story

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