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“Moment of Insight: Sometimes you have to let go of what is killing you, even when it’s killing you to let go.”
― Sherrie Campbell, Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut

“Moment of Insight: Overexplaining is a trauma response.”
― Sherrie Campbell, Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut

“you cannot heal in the same environment that is poisoning you.”
― Sherrie Campbell, Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut

“Moment of Insight: Survivors of family abuse live life with the heart of an orphan.”
― Sherrie Campbell, Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut

“Leave toxic people where they belong — in your past.”
― Sherrie Campbell

“The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her, and supports her. If that person is missing, if the child must risk losing the mother's love of her substitute in order to feel, then she will repress emotions.”
― Alice Miller, The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self

“Many people suffer all their lives from this oppressive feeling of guilt, the sense of not having lived up to their parents' expectations. This feeling is stronger than any intellectual insight they might have, that it is not a child's task or duty to satisfy his parents needs. No argument can overcome these guilt feelings, for they have their beginnings in life's earliest periods, and from that they derive their intensity and obduracy.”
― Alice Miller, The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self

“Where there had been only fearful emptiness or equally frightening grandiose fan­tasies, an unexpected wealth of vitality is now discovered. This is not a homecoming, since this home has never before existed. It is the creation of home.”
― Alice Miller, The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self

“Depression as Denial of the Self Depression consists of a denial of one’s own emotional reactions. This denial begins in the service of an absolutely essential adaptation during childhood and indicates a very early injury. There are many children who have not been free, right from the beginning, to experience the very simplest of feelings, such as discontent, anger, rage, pain, even hunger—and, of course, enjoyment of their own bodies.”
― Alice Miller, The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self

“To know what you prefer instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to have kept your soul alive.”
― Robert Louis Stevenson, An Inland Voyage

“Every family is a cruel, intransigent monarchy.”
― Heather O'Neill, When We Lost Our Heads

“The female body was particularly absorbent when it came to shame. If you wrung out any woman’s body, you would discover it was soaked in shame.”
― Heather O'Neill, When We Lost Our Heads

“The books that the world calls immoral are books that show the world its own shame.”
― Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

“There is no such thing as a moral or an immoral book.
Books are well written, or badly written. That is all.”
― Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

“Surprises are foolish things. The pleasure is not enhanced, and the inconvenience is often considerable.”
― Jane Austen, Emma

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.”
― Fumio Sasaki, Goodbye, Things: The New Japanese Minimalism

“Minimalism is just the beginning. It’s a tool. Once you’ve gone ahead and minimized, it’s time to find out what those important things are. Minimalism”
― Fumio Sasaki, Goodbye, Things: The New Japanese Minimalism

“Never tell the truth to people who are not worthy of it.”
― Mark Twain

“Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.”
― Charles Addams

“Only a fool trips on what is behind them.”
― Iceberg Slim, Pimp: The Story of My Life

“You are not special. You're not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You're the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We're all part of the same compost heap. We're all singing, all dancing crap of the world.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club

“Do you hate people?”

“I don't hate them...I just feel better when they're not around.”
― Charles Bukowski, Barfly

“I think perhaps all of us go a little crazy at times.”
― Robert Bloch, Psycho

“I became insane, with long intervals of horrible sanity.”
― Edgar Allan Poe

“It is sometimes an appropriate response to reality to go insane.”
― Philip K. Dick, VALIS

“We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and—in spite of True Romance magazines—we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely—at least, not all the time—but essentially, and finally, alone. This is what makes your self-respect so important, and I don't see how you can respect yourself if you must look in the hearts and minds of others for your happiness.”
― Hunter S. Thompson, The Proud Highway: Saga of a Desperate Southern Gentleman, 1955-1967

“You don’t love, you only envy. You don’t care, only cultivate, you hate on many levels, everyone, for everything.”
― Rayne Havok, Necrosis