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“All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”
― Leo Tolstoy , Anna Karenina

“It is love, not reason, that is stronger than death.”
― Thomas Mann, The Magic Mountain

“If you want to know what a man's like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

“If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything.”
― Mark Twain

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
― Martin Luther King Jr., A Testament of Hope: The Essential Writings and Speeches

“We accept the love we think we deserve.”
― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
― H. Jackson Brown Jr., P.S. I Love You

“It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”
― Andre Gide, Autumn Leaves

“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
― Albert Einstein

“The fool doth think he is wise, but the wise man knows himself to be a fool.”
― William Shakespeare, As You Like It

“Life is what happens to us while we are making other plans.”
― Allen Saunders

“I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.”
― Douglas Adams, The Long Dark Tea-Time of the Soul

“Love all, trust a few,
Do wrong to none: be able for thine enemy
Rather in power than use; and keep thy friend
Under thy own life's key: be check'd for silence,
But never tax'd for speech.”
― William Shakespeare, All's Well That Ends Well

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.”
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones

“ The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.”
― Kent M. Keith, The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
― Lao Tzu

“I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”
― Maya Angelou, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings

“We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.”
― Anaïs Nin

“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect—you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break—her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there.”
― Bob Marley

“How can the intensity of this shame be understood by those who have never experienced it? How can they understand the strength of the motivations produced by the desire to escape from it?”
― Didier Eribon, Insult and the Making of the Gay Self

“Was mir vor allen Dingen unbestreitbar vorkommt, ist die Tatsache, das ein solches Ausbleiben des Klassengefühls eine bürgerliche Kindheit kennzeichnet. Die Herrschenden merken nicht, dass ihre Welt nur einer partikularen, situierten Wahrheit entspricht (so wie ein Weißer sich nicht seines Weißseins und ein Heterosexueller sich nicht seiner Heterosexualität bewusst ist).”
― Didier Eribon, Returning to Reims

“Ich könnte mir die metaphernreiche, blühende Sprache Genets zu eigen machen und schreiben, dass irgendwann die Zeit kommt, wo man den Rotz, mit dem man bespuckt wird, in Rosen verwandelt, die Beschimpfungen in Blumenkränze und Sonnenstrahlen. Es ist der Moment, in dem die Schande in Stolz umschlägt... Und dieser Stolz ist durch und durch politisch, weil der die Mechanismen der Normalität und Normativität auf radikale Weise herausfordert. Die Neuformulierung des Selbst beginnt nicht bei null: Man formt die eigene Identität, indem man diejenige, die einem von der sozialen Ordnung vorgegeben wurde, langsam und geduldig bearbeitet.”
― Didier Eribon, Returning to Reims

“Les vies gays sont souvent des vies différées ; elles commencent lorsqu'un individu se réinvente lui-même, en sortant de son silence, de sa clandestinité honteuse, ou en tout cas en s'aménageant des espaces où il lui est possible d'être ce qu'il est et veut être. Lorsqu'il choisit au lieu de subir, et par exemple, lorsqu'il se compose une autre famille - constituée de ses amis, de ses amants, de ses anciens amants devenus ses amis et des amis de ses anciens amants - et reconstruit ainsi son identité après avoir quitté le champ clos et étouffant de sa famille d'origine et de ses injonctions tacites ou explicites à l'hétérosexualité. Une telle fuite ne signifie pas nécessairement, cela va de soi, la rupture totale avec sa famille, mais plutôt la nécessité de s'en tenir éloigné et de la tenir à distance. Avant cela, les vies gays ne sont que des vies vécues par procuration, des vies imaginées, ou des vies attendues, espérées autant que redoutées. (p. 46)”
― Didier Eribon, Insult and the Making of the Gay Self

“At bottom, and just in the deepest and most important things, we are unutterably alone, and for one person to be able to advise or even help another, a lot must happen, a lot must go well, a whole constellation of things must come right in order once to succeed.”
― Rainer Marie Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

“Samuel Beckett once said, "Every word is like an unnecessary stain on silence and nothingness."
...On the other hand, he SAID it.”
― Art Spiegelman, Maus II: A Survivor's Tale: And Here My Troubles Began

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.”
― Anne Frank, Anne Frank's Tales from the Secret Annex: A Collection of Her Short Stories, Fables, and Lesser-Known Writings

“The story so far:
In the beginning the Universe was created.
This has made a lot of people very angry and been widely regarded as a bad move.”
― Douglas Adams, The Restaurant at the End of the Universe

“Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment...'dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love -- which is to transform us.' Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.”
― bell hooks