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#1

“Your judgments about another person say more about your own character than the character of the person you are pointing a finger at.

This is the key and one of the most fundamental insights about the ‘red flags’ that we often dismiss regarding the people in our lives. If someone complains a lot to you about other people, guess what? That is part of their current character. And, as quickly as the tide changes, you can just as easily become the person they target and criticize, point fingers at, and negatively judge. Forever and always, until vibrations are raised, this will be the cycle of the relationship. So, it’s your choice to continue to engage in the cycle with them, or to move on.

There are plenty of people who do not criticize, point fingers, or judge. THIS is the kind of character we want to foster within ourselves. THIS is the character of the kind of people we DO want to develop close relationships with.”
― Alaric Hutchinson, Living Peace: Essential Teachings For Enriching Life

tags: acceptance, character, choice, consciousness, friendship, growth, inner-peace, inspirational, judging-others, moving-forward, moving-on, new-age, psychology, relationships, spiritual, unity, vibration, wisdom, zen

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#2

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: acceptance, beginnings, boundaries, break-ups, breaking-up, challenges, change, confidence, dignity, divorce, empowerment, inspiration, letting-go, life, marriage, moving-on, pride, relationships, self-esteem, self-respect, self-worth, trials, women

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#3

“No" is a complete sentence.”
― Annie Lamott

tags: boundaries

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#4

“Boundaries are, in simple terms, the recognition of personal space.”
― Asa Don Brown, The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

tags: boundaries, capella-university, childhood-trauma, laughter, ptsd, rad, recovery, resiliency, trauma

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#5

“Whether they’re family or friends, manipulators are difficult to escape from. Give in to their demands and they’ll be happy enough, but if you develop a spine and start saying no, it will inevitably bring a fresh round of head games and emotional blackmail. You’ll notice that breaking free from someone else’s dominance will often result in them accusing you of being selfish. Yes, you’re selfish, because you’ve stopped doing what they want you to do for them. Wow. Can these people hear themselves?!”
― Rosie Blythe, The Princess Guide to Life

tags: boundaries, manipulative-people, saying-no, selfish

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#6

“Just as we expect others to value our boundaries, it's equally important for us to respect the boundaries of others.”
― Laurie Buchanan

tags: boundaries, respect

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#7

“The boundaries of this world are forever shifting – from day to night, joy to sorrow, love to hate, and from life itself to death; and who can say at what moment we may suddenly cross over the border, from one state of existence to another, like heat applied to some flammable substance? I have been given my own ever-changing margins, across which I move, continually and hungrily, like a migrating animal. Now civilized, now untamed; now responsive to decency and human concern, now viciously attuned to the darkest of desires.”
― Michael Cox, The Meaning of Night

tags: alteration, boundaries, change, character, characteristics, definition, margins

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#8

“The best traveler is one without a camera.”
― Kamand Kojouri

tags: best, boundaries, camera, comfort, experience, explore, explorer, flight, hiker, inspiration, inspirational, journey, kamand, kamand-kojouri, kojouri, learn, life, moment, plane, pleasure, present, quote, travel, traveler, traveling, traveller, travelling, wander, wanderlust

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#9

“Self Respect " respects boundaries,
yours or other's.
"Ego" is so full of self,
it sees no boundaries.”
― Drishti Bablani, Wordions

tags: boundaries, drishti-bablani, ego, self-respect, wordions, wordions-com

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#10

“If we're highly empathetic and emotionally sensitive we're at greater risk of becoming involved with a manipulator.”
― Adelyn Birch, Boundaries After a Pathological Relationship

tags: abuse, boundaries, psychology, relationships

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#11

“To my abusers, the act of setting appropriate boundaries was viewed as hostile aggression. They believed that I was denying them something that belonged to them if I resisted. I was a resource to be exploited for their personal use. I was property who didn’t have any rights over my time, my energy, my body, or my possessions. I viewed myself that way too. I believed that they were justified in being angry with me for saying no but I wasn’t justified in being angry with them for abusing me.”
― Christina Enevoldsen

tags: abuse-survivors, abusers-boundaries, belief-system, boundaries, exploitation, manipulation, sexual-abuse

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#12

“If you live your life to please everyone else, you will continue to feel frustrated and powerless. This is because what others want may not be good for you. You are not being mean when you say NO to unreasonable demands or when you express your ideas, feelings, and opinions, even if they differ from those of others.”
― Beverly Engel, The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- And Start Standing Up for Yourself

tags: assertiveness, boundaries, codependency, complex-ptsd, frustrated, healing-insights, lack-of-assertiveness, powerless, relationship-problems, survivors, survivors-of-abuse, unreasonable-expectations, unreasonableness

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#13

“The concept of hard times resulting in a positive transformation is repeated in nature over and over again; it’s why they say that a diamond is a piece of charcoal that handled stress exceptionally well! Think about how a caterpillar has to cocoon herself in darkness and wait, in a space which becomes far too small for her expanding wings. If you were to interfere with the process and help her out, she would never develop the strength she needs to fly; it’s the struggling which makes her powerful enough to break free and become a butterfly.”
― Rosie Blythe, The Princess Guide to Life

tags: butterfly-suffering, strength-through-adversity

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#14

“The Princess attitude to food isn’t about obsessively scraping the oil off your salad, saying no to crème brûlée and taking a little snack bag of spinach everywhere you go. I truly believe it’s more important to consciously choose what you’re going to eat and enjoy every bite – even if it’s a gooey chocolate cake with extra sugary sprinkles – than to make a healthy diet such a burden that your life stretches out in front of you as a joyless, never-ending round of wafer snack breads. (Let’s face it, chocolate is a divine gift to us all and should be appreciated for the mood-altering drug that it is.)”
― Rosie Blythe, The Princess Guide to Life

tags: diet, food, health, healthy-living

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#15

“Despite the illusion of giving understanding, what seeing through photographs really invites is an acquisitive relation to the world that nourishes aesthetic awareness and promotes emotional detachment.”
― Susan Sontag, On Photography

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#16

“The photographer is now charging real beasts, beleaguered and too rare to kill. Guns have metamorphosed into cameras in this earnest comedy, the ecology safari, because nature has ceased to be what it always had been - what people needed protection from. Now nature - tamed, endangered, mortal - needs to be protected from people. When we are afraid, we shoot. But when we are nostalgic, we take pictures.”
― Susan Sontag, On Photography

tags: essays, philosophy, photography, photography-quotes

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#17

“Life is not about significant details, illuminated a flash, fixed forever.

Photographs are.”
― Susan Sontag, On Photography

tags: life, moments, photography

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#18

“Needing to have reality confirmed and experience enhanced by photographs is an aesthetic consumerism to which everyone is now addicted. Industrial societies turn their citizens into image-junkies; it is the most irresistible form of mental pollution.”
― Susan Sontag, On Photography

tags: addiction, aesthetics, consumerism, photography, society

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#19

“to take a photograph is to participate in another person's mortality, vulnerability, mutability. precisely by slicing out this moment and freezing it, all photographs testify to time's relentless melt.”
― Susan Sontag, On Photography

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#20

“If there can be a better way for the real world to include the one of images, it will require an ecology not only of real things but of images as well.”
― Susan Sontag, On Photography

tags: instagram, photography, virtual

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#21

“To photograph is to appropriate the thing photographed.”
― Susan Sontag, On Photography

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#22

“Photographs are a way of imprisoning reality...One can't possess reality, one can possess images--one can't possess the present but one can possess the past.”
― Susan Sontag, On Photography

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#23

“A way of certifying experience, taking photographs is also a way of refusing it—by limiting experience to a search for the photogenic, by converting experience into an image, a souvenir. Travel becomes a strategy for accumulating photographs.”
― Susan Sontag, On Photography

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#24

“I haven't been everywhere, but it's on my list.”
― Susan Sontag

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#25

“I discovered that I am tired of being a person. Not just tired of being the person I was, but any person at all”
― Susan Sontag

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#26

“Time exists in order that everything doesn’t happen all at once…and space exists so that it doesn’t all happen to you.”
― Susan Sontag, At the Same Time: Essays and Speeches

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#27

“10 percent of any population is cruel, no matter what, and 10 percent is merciful, no matter what, and the remaining 80 percent can be moved in either direction.”
― Susan Sontag

tags: cruelty, humanity, mankind, mercy

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#28

“The camera makes everyone a tourist in other people's reality, and eventually in one's own.”
― Susan Sontag

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#29

“Life is a movie; death is a photograph.”
― Susan Sontag

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#30

“I don’t care about someone being intelligent; any situation between people, when they are really human with each other, produces ‘intelligence.”
― Susan Sontag

tags: humans, intelligence, people

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