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#1

“Never rearrange your life in order to meet Mr. Darcy half way. If he couldn’t see your worth at the moment you met then he won’t two years later. May the halls of Pemberly be filled with his regrets and your life filled with thankfulness because of this revelation.”
― Shannon Alder

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#2

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: anger, battles, betrayal, consequences, divorce, fights, hurt, judgement, justice, letting-go, love, low-self-esteem, moving-on, pain, relationships, revenge, self-worth, seperation, vindication

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#3

“Before you can live a part of you has to die. You have to let go of what could have been, how you should have acted and what you wish you would have said differently. You have to accept that you can’t change the past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time or outcomes from their choices or yours. When you finally recognize that truth then you will understand the true meaning of forgiveness of yourself and others. From this point you will finally be free.”
― Shannon Alder

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#4

“Dignity
/ˈdignitē/ noun

1. The moment you realize that the person you cared for has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you, but a headache.

2. The moment you realize God had greater plans for you that don’t involve crying at night or sad Pinterest quotes.

3. The moment you stop comparing yourself to others because it undermines your worth, education and your parent’s wisdom.

4. The moment you live your dreams, not because of what it will prove or get you, but because that is all you want to do. People’s opinions don’t matter.

5. The moment you realize that no one is your enemy, except yourself.

6. The moment you realize that you can have everything you want in life. However, it takes timing, the right heart, the right actions, the right passion and a willingness to risk it all. If it is not yours, it is because you really didn’t want it, need it or God prevented it.

7. The moment you realize the ghost of your ancestors stood between you and the person you loved. They really don't want you mucking up the family line with someone that acts anything less than honorable.

8. The moment you realize that happiness was never about getting a person. They are only a helpmate towards achieving your life mission.

9. The moment you believe that love is not about losing or winning. It is just a few moments in time, followed by an eternity of situations to grow from.

10. The moment you realize that you were always the right person. Only ignorant people walk away from greatness.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#5

“Sensitive people are the most genuine and honest people you will ever meet. There is nothing they won’t tell you about themselves if they trust your kindness. However, the moment you betray them, reject them or devalue them, they become the worse type of person. Unfortunately, they end up hurting themselves in the long run. They don’t want to hurt other people. It is against their very nature. They want to make amends and undo the wrong they did. Their life is a wave of highs and lows. They live with guilt and constant pain over unresolved situations and misunderstandings. They are tortured souls that are not able to live with hatred or being hated. This type of person needs the most love anyone can give them because their soul has been constantly bruised by others. However, despite the tragedy of what they have to go through in life, they remain the most compassionate people worth knowing, and the ones that often become activists for the broken hearted, forgotten and the misunderstood. They are angels with broken wings that only fly when loved.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#6

“There are no coincidences in life. What person that wandered in and out of your life was there for some purpose, even if they caused you harm. Sometimes, it doesn’t make sense the short periods of time we get with people, or the outcomes from their choices. However, if you turn it over to God he promises that you will see the big picture in the hereafter. Nothing is too small to be a mistake.”
― Shannon Alder

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#7

“I have always found it odd that people who think passive aggressively ignoring a person is making a point to them. The only point it makes to anyone is your inability to articulate your point of view because deep down you know you can’t win. It’s better to assert yourself and tell the person you are moving on without them and why, rather than leave a lasting impression of cowardness on your part in a person’s mind by avoiding them.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#8

“Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn't change the heart of others-- it only changes yours.”
― Shannon Alder, 300 Questions to Ask Your Parents Before It's Too Late

tags: anger, caring-too-much, change, cruelty, damage, depression, dismissing, envy, games, heart, hurting-others, ignoring, jealousy, not-caring, pain, rejecting, resentment, retaliation, revenge, seeking-revenge, self-abuse, self-esteem, self-hatred, self-help, self-worth, sorrow, spiritual-growth, unkindness, vengance

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#9

“Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, "What else could this mean?”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: anger, ego, misinterpretation, misunderstand, misunderstandings, overthinking, pain, perception, perspective, questions, reading-into-everything, reading-into-things, second-quessing, self-esteem, self-improvement

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#10

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: acceptance, beginnings, boundaries, break-ups, breaking-up, challenges, change, confidence, dignity, divorce, empowerment, inspiration, letting-go, life, marriage, moving-on, pride, relationships, self-esteem, self-respect, self-worth, trials, women

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#11

“Sometimes your light shines so bright that it blinds people from seeing who you really are.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#12

“You will face your greatest opposition when you are closest to your biggest miracle.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#13

“I am tired of people saying that poor character is the only reason people do wrong things. Actually, circumstances cause people to act a certain way. It's from those circumstances that a person's attitude is affected followed by weakening of character. Not the reverse. If we had no faults of our own, we should not take so much pleasure in noticing those in others and judging their lives as either black or white, good or bad. We all live our lives in shades of gray.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#14

“There is a difference between saying goodbye and letting go. Goodbye is not permanent. You can meet years later as old friends and share what happened in your life. You can smile and laugh about all the nonsense that you both went through. However, letting go is being okay with never seeing this person ever again…being okay with never knowing how their life turned out…being okay with fifty or more years of silence… being okay with running into that person at a grocery store and having them not acknowledge your presence. This is the part of life that doesn’t sit well with me and never will. It tears my heart in pieces, robs me of gratitude, drains me of anything positive and eats at the faith that holds on. It goes against kindness.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#15

“People that have trust issues only need to look in the mirror. There they will meet the one person that will betray them the most.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: blaming, blaming-others, brokenness, disorders, hatred, high-standards, hypocrisy, ignoring, illness, issues, judgement, judging-others, learning, narcissistic, no-conscience, no-filter, paranoia, poor-character, problems, realization, respecting-others, self-absorbed, self-abuse, self-realization, trust, trustworthy

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#16

“I existed on my own terms. I was different my entire life. Some called me divergent, wild, crazy, unpredictable and unconformed—an apostate to the rules of the majority. I called myself God’s creation and found purpose in the madness. When that day came, I didn’t allow other people to dictate how I should feel or act. I learned there was no shame in imperfection because history had shown being different had the power to change perspectives and eventually the world. This is when I realized that flaws had responsibility. This was the day that I learned I was truly BLESSED.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#17

“A coward talks to everyone but YOU.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: anxiety, cheats, competition, coward, defaming, evil-women, fake-christians, false-information, fear, games, gossips, heartless, insecure-women, jealous-women, jealousy, liars, low-self-esteem, paranoid-men, rumors, sisterinlaws, sisters, slander, stalkers, weak

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#18

“The greatest heroes in life are those that never give up on someone. They stick it out and make it work. They sacrifice things in their life, in order to help others grow. They give up what they want because someone needs it more. They work hard and overcome adversity. They fail for a moment, but get back up on their feet to show others they don’t have to stay down. They show their loved ones that love is not “proved” by conformity. They teach others that having a voice is a sign of courage, and they will not stay silent to make people feel comfortable. They are fearless and will do whatever it takes to bring about the greatness in the ones they love because doing so brings them peace. Their name is---MOM.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#19

“Insanity is everyone expecting you not to fall apart when you find out everything you believed in was a lie.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: beliefs, boyfriends, cheaters, crisis, delusions, fake-christians, falling-apart, games, girlfriends, insanity, lies, men, mental-disorders, relationships, sisters, stalkers, wrong-diagnosis

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#20

“The most introspective of souls are often those that have been hurt the most.”
― Shannon Alder

tags: dreamers, insecure, introspection, introverts, like-minded, love, overthinkers, romantics, sensitive, souls

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#21

“The lesson will always repeat itself, unless you see yourself as the problem--not others.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#22

“Life always begins with one step outside of your comfort zone.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: accomplishments, big-dreams, chances, choices, comfort-zone, dreams, goals, life, life-purpose, living, motivation, plans, procrastination, striving, success, talents

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#23

“Your dignity can be mocked, abused, compromised, toyed with, lowered and even badmouthed, but it can never be taken from you. You have the power today to reset your boundaries, restore your image, start fresh with renewed values and rebuild what has happened to you in the past.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: abused, beginnings, choices, compassion, cruelty, dignity, empowerment, endings, experiences, final-chapters, forgiveness, games, gossip, hurt, image, injustice, justice, lies, life-lessons, mocking, new-journeys, played-with, redemption, repentance, restoration, rumors, self-confidence, self-worth, truth

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#24

“The problem with people that ignore people they dislike is they can’t ignore them. Anger carries a person in your mind forever, whether you choose to speak to them or not. Therefore, don’t mistake prosperity or accomplishments as resolution. You can’t escape what you will not deal with. The day you can stand in the room with someone and not be affected is the day you truly moved on.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#25

“Accomplishments don’t erase shame, hatred, cruelty, silence, ignorance, discrimination, low self-esteem or immorality. It covers it up, with a creative version of pride and ego. Only restitution, forgiving yourself and others, compassion, repentance and living with dignity will ever erase the past.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: accomplishments, anger, betrayed, bitterness, blindsighted, blown-off, broken-hearted, compassion, confidence, creativity, dignity, dumped, ego, erasing-the-past, false-confidence, false-worth, forgiveness, forgiving-others, freedom, games, giving, growth, hatred, hidden-agendas, hurt, ignored, inner-joy, inner-peace, live-free, low-self-esteem, move-on, new-beginnings, obvious, peace, pride, proud, proving-worth, real-value, rebel, repentance, restituition, revenge, seeking-approval, self-hatred, self-love, spiritual-growth, start-over, steps-of-repentance, stubborn, the-past, truth, truth-follower, value

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#26

“Cruel people offer pity when they no longer feel threatened. However, kind people offer compassion and understanding regardless.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: anger, communication, compassion, competition, cruelty, fake, fake-christians, family-members, games, hatred, hurting-people, jealousy, listening, mental-disorders, no-communication, no-talking, passive-agressive-behavior, pity, reaching-out, sisters, talking, understanding

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#27

“If you want to discover the true character of a person, you have only to observe what they are passionate about.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: beliefs, causes, character, interests, judgement, passionate, personality, reputation, soul, true-self, viewpoint

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#28

“Being kind to someone, only to look kind to others, defeats the purpose of being kind.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: being-right, compassion, cruelty, fake, fake-kindness, games, guessing, judging, kindness, lack-of-compassion, misunderstanding, no-communication, not-hearing, not-listening, not-understanding, piety, speculation

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#29

“Betrayal is an ironic thing. He or she betrays you then you betray yourself. You think you’re showing strength with your anger, but in reality you’re showing how much you still care.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#30

“Maybe, it is just enough to believe with a positive heart that people didn’t let you down. It could be just this: They couldn’t give you the compassion you really wanted based on where their heart is right now. Maybe, not now, but years later they will catch the memory of you in a quiet moment. There on that Sunday morning, a light will shine through the fog of lies, misunderstanding and frustration they built inside their angry mind about your true character. And, when it does, the shadows will be casted out to reveal a scared and hurt little boy or girl that just wanted to be loved, but went about it all wrong. Maybe, on that day, the whisper of their gratitude for your love will find its way back to your heart. And when that day comes, you will find yourself smiling all day long and not know why.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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