Attachmentparenting Boundaries Quotes

“The child translates that message something like this: When I am good, I am loved. When I'm bad, I am cut off. Put your self in the child's place. What would you do?...God created people with a need for attachment and relationship. Parents who pull away from their child are, in essence, practicing spiritual and emotional blackmail. The child can either pretend to not disagree and keep the relationship, or he can continue to separate and lose his most important relationship in the world. He will most likely keep quiet.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries

“Eileen's parents' lack of limits on her hurt her character development. Though she was a loving wife, mother and worker, others were constantly frustrated at her undisciplined, careless way of living. It costs others a lot to be in relationship with her. Yet she was so loveable that most of her friends didn't want to hurt her feelings by confronting her. So the problem remained unsolved.
Lack of parental boundaries is the opposite of hostility. Again, biblical discipline would have provided the necessary structure to help Eileen develop her character.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries