Audacia Ray Quotes

“As a woman of color who is interested in these issues of democracy and who wants to enact social change, Pilaf sees the Internet as a tool that perpetuates the corporate, white, middle-class hegemony of American consumer culture rather than a tool for revolution. Instead of viewing the Internet as a new outlet for activism and that opens up a world of communication, Pilaf sees the online communication and activism as an escape valve, a way to remove oneself from interactions with people. Although I disagree with her on this point, I’m very much aware that my ability to see the Internet as revolutionary comes from a place of privilege, in which I can think of the Internet as a sexual, political, and intellectual arena because I’m in a place (geographically and economically) where these are the very things that are my primary focus and concern. Although some of Pilaf’s criticisms overlap with those technophobes who view the Internet as the devil’s playground, her observations come from a very real, intense place of political and personal discomfort with forging ahead of digital culture and the casualties this ‘progress’ may leave.”
― Audacia Ray, Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads, and Cashing in on Internet Sexploration

“The darkness that exists online is not a property that lurks inside our servers and our cyberdildonics; it is inside the people who have found an outlet that exists to express themselves---for both good and evil (and sexy stuff in between). To say that the Internet is an entity that threatens human society, morality, and nature is naive at best and an expression of displaced blame at worst.”
― Audacia Ray, Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads, and Cashing in on Internet Sexploration

“As a rule, menstruation is generally not something seen in porn, which is a peculiar omission in an industry that fetishizes everything from shoes to stuffed animals to excretory functions. Though credit-card processing companies seem to have no problem with double- and triple-penetration sites, bukkake, and electricity play, most of them regard menstruation and other forms of blood play as out of bounds, citing obscenity violations as well as safer sex concerns---though anal cream pies and the like are at least as risky.”
― Audacia Ray, Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads, and Cashing in on Internet Sexploration

“The Internet is not so different from a highly interactive videogame with competitors set to be offed.”
― Audacia Ray, Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads, and Cashing in on Internet Sexploration

“It's true that some commenters and email correspondents challenge writers to examine certain posts, but for the most part, blog readers are sympathetic (sometimes overly so) to the plight of the blogger. Readers are generally on the blogger's side and oftentimes only gently question the blogger's thinking, if at all. It's much easier for a blogger to shut out a commenter or email correspondent than it would be for her to shut out and disregard a living, breathing therapist.”
― Audacia Ray, Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads, and Cashing in on Internet Sexploration