Christian Singleness Quotes

“If we want to have and enjoy such Christ-centered intimacy, we need to get married. And if we want to get married, we need to pursue clarity about whom to marry. We don’t pursue clarity by diving into intimacy. The right kind of clarity is a means to the right kind of intimacy, not the other way around. Careful, prayerful, thoughtful clarity will produce healthy, lasting, passionate intimacy. Any other road to intimacy will sabotage it, leaving it shallow, fragile, and unreliable.”
― Marshall Segal, Not Yet Married: The Pursuit of Joy in Singleness and Dating

“If you wouldn't take on their regrets, don't you dare envy their highlights.”
― Andrena Sawyer

“The great prize in dating is Christ-centered clarity. Intimacy is safest in the context of marriage and marriage is safest in the context of clarity. The purpose of our dating is to determine whether the two of us should get married, so we should focus our effort there.”
― Marshall Segal, Not Yet Married: The Pursuit of Joy in Singleness and Dating

“Hindsight teaches us that it is better to wait than to regret.”
― Andrena Sawyer

“Some of us keep missing the breakthrough because we don't want to cross the bridges of growth that look like weakness, solitude, loneliness, and delay.”
― Andrena Sawyer

“One of the most dangerous traps for the believer is a good thing that's not a God thing.”
― Andrena Sawyer

“But when we choose to pursue purity and postpone intimacy, Jesus’s sacrifice looks costly, like our most expensive and prized possession. When we do not push boundaries, we announce the priceless weight of every one of his wounds. When we keep our clothes on and our hands from wandering, we celebrate the immeasurable mercy he carried on a back destroyed with lashes. When we wait in dating, we declare again that he really is risen from the dead and reigning in heaven. Our sexual purity will either make the cross look real and valuable, or it won’t. With our eyes happily fixed on Jesus, the once-for-all sacrifice for our sins, he will increasingly be honored in our bodies, whether in singleness or marriage.”
― Marshall Segal, Not Yet Married: The Pursuit of Joy in Singleness and Dating

“Singles are told to be content with where they are in life but also encouraged and pressured to move out of their current “situation” or “season.” Being told both of these can become a bit confusing.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness

“We can be content in who God is, but that doesn’t mean we will be content in our singleness.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness

“Let’s encourage singles to enjoy this season in other ways than simply telling them it’s a gift.
Because if we are being honest, marriage is a gift too and you can’t blame a girl for wanting it.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness

“God’s story for someone’s life may look different than the “typical” story you are used to hearing, but that does not diminish the beauty and gift from God. It does not mean someone has lived life wrong. It means God has something else in store.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness

“True fulfillment on this earth is the same fulfilment you’ll have in heaven—Jesus.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness

“Church, let’s shift the narrative from “marriage equals success” to “embracing where God has you equals success.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness

“The best things you can do for your single friends is to listen, validate them, and encourage them never to lower their standards if what they desire lines up with what God says is best.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness

“Desiring marriage does not automatically mean I am discontent in my life. As long as I desire Jesus more than marriage, I shouldn’t be made to feel
ashamed for desiring to be married one day.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness

“We often correlate the “bad or unwanted” feelings we have with what we believe to be the truth, but our feelings don’t always tell the full picture. If we are not careful, we will start to let these false narratives become our life
mottos. So what is the truth? God does care, and just because we are unable to see clearly why he chooses to love us a certain way in this
exact moment doesn’t mean he doesn’t care.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness

“What you allow yourself to think and feel becomes what you believe about yourself. Make sure everything you believe about yourself and the current journey God has you on aligns with what God says about you.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness

“When you guard your heart and fill it with godly influences, there is no room for comparison, heartbreak, or deceit. No room for anything that tears down your spirit and joy for life, only room for God and who he says you are.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness

“I want a husband who loves Jesus and keeps him at the center of his life, someone who is not ashamed to live counterculturally and stand up for Christ. I want someone who has integrity, who is obedient to God, and who loves Jesus more than he loves me.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness

“God always shows up for people who seek him.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness

“You can search to the ends of the earth, but nothing will ever bring you long-lasting, pure, and fulfilling joy like God will.”
― Mylee Bankston, Is Being Single a Gift?: Trusting God While Unpacking Hard Truths on Singleness