Dependence On Others Quotes

“Enmeshment creates almost total dependence on approval and validation from outside yourself. Lovers, bosses, friends, even strangers become the stand-in for parents. Adults like Kim who were raised in families where there was no permission to be an individual frequently become approval junkies, constantly seeking their next fix.”
― Susan Forward, Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

“In families like Fred's, much of a child's identity and his illusions of safety depend on feeling enmeshed. He develops a need to be a part of other people and to have them be a part of him. He can't stand the thought of being cast out. This need for enmeshment carries right into adult relationships.”
― Susan Forward, Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

“It can’t be done for you; it must be done by you.”
― Frank Sonnenberg, Listen to Your Conscience: That's Why You Have One

“A friend or an enemy can tell me something about my subjective being, a casual lover can judge my body — the man I love judges my entire being. Every one of his caresses tells me how I am: attractive, desirable. Every one of his questions and answers tells me what I am: a person with whom he wants to enjoy himself, who interests him more than all the others he knows. By choosing me among all others, my love has made me unique; I alone in all the world am the one he loves, and no other. If I am lucky in love, the definitions become more precise from day to day; after each date I know even better than before what I want to know about myself. The others can say what they like about me; I don't have to believe a word of it. Only the one I love can tell me about myself. Since his definitions grow increasingly precise, my dependence on him also grows more acute as time goes on, but he is in the same position with regard to me. I tell him that I belong to him alone, that he can do with me what he likes, that I cannot live without him.”
― Esther Vilar, The Polygamous Sex

“You know how we men are. If we imprint on you young, you've got us forever. To do with us as you please."
She smiled at Zee so sweetly that Rico braced himself for what was coming. "Or you men want us to believe that, so we can never let you go and you can use our dependence to do as you please."
Zee looked delighted. "Are you saying men are more manipulative in relationships than women? That would go against the popular opinion, now wouldn't it?"
Ashna mirrored his delight. "The popular opinion that men have floated through the years?"
"I know a lot of women who agree that women are more manipulative than men."
"Just like you've heard women say women gossip more, or pull each other down, or only feel loved when men shower them with material gifts. Patriarchal opinions that centuries of being called 'the weaker sex' and being given only the domestic space and our own bodies to claim our power with have had us internalize?”
― Sonali Dev, Recipe for Persuasion

“I didn't invent the difficulty of depending on people. It's not a personality flaw of mine. The message is everywhere. The air is saturated with it -- independence and strength and pulling yourself up by your bootstraps (an image that is by its very nature impossible.) "Take complete responsibility for your life," they say, as if the external forces don't matter at all. As if it all comes down to personal effort and attitude. As if money, support, and privilege had nothing to do with how your life turns out.”
― Karen Havelin, Please Read This Leaflet Carefully: Keep This Leaflet. You May Need to Read It Again.

“Crying and hoping that someone will feel pity, is folly. Rise and do something to escape your evil predicament”
― Bangambiki Habyarimana, Book of Wisdom

“I am a nobody trying to be a somebody by not riding or pulling down anybody.”
― Amit Abraham

“Is that what you are going to do when someone tries to take your life from you? Or the lives of your family? Yield and hope that they take pity on you?”
― Adam Burch, Song of Edmon

“Despite having two young children to mother, [Sylvia Plath] seemed inept at the basics of life, always needing help.”
― Rob Jovanovic, A Version of Reason: In Search of Richey Edwards

“People who receive a free lunch end up paying the price.”
― Frank Sonnenberg, Soul Food: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

“We tend to find Horcruxes in humans. A different concept - who'd have thought it like that, right?”
― Sijdah Hussain, Red Sugar, No More

“Be leery of people who depend on you for their social well-being and mental satisfaction.”
― Germany Kent

“Trust yourself. Those who do not trust what they think they believe seek to have others believe for them.”
― Levi Ramos

“Change begins when you realize that there are no hidden or buried treasures.
No Santa Claus nor genie.
Just you and your determination to succeed.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson, Night of a Thousand Thoughts

“If you are not in control of your life as ordained by God, your happiness will be dependent on people and things, so that when the people and things exit your life, your happiness is taken away.”
― Daniel ANIKOR

“There’s such a thing as being dependent on independence.”
― Tamerlan Kuzgov

“Standing on your own two feet creates stability.”
― Frank Sonnenberg, BECOME: Unleash the Power of Moral Character and Be Proud of the Life You Choose

“The best way to make things hard for people, is to make it too easy for them.”
― Frank Sonnenberg, Values to Live By: Know What Matters Most and Let It Be Your Guide

“I am a free bird, yet I still need the wind to lift my wings through the skies.”
― Eduvie Donald