Ipnb Quotes

“Interpersonal neurobiology asks us to place no boundaries on where and how it might illuminate our world.

It is possible that every moment has the potential to be therapeutic in some way.”
― Bonnie Badenoch, The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships

“We may find ourselves in a role similar to that of a gardener as we cultivate a space in which healing can naturally unfold.

In terms of neurobiology, this stance encourages us to lean into the reassuring awareness that our systems already contain seeds awaiting our attention.

For some examples, we humans are always seeking the warmest possible attachments we can imagine (Cozolino, Siegel), our brains are continuously yearning for the arrival of a co-organizing other (Badenoch, Cozolino, Schore), emotional regulation flows naturally from being in the presence of someone we trust (Beckes & Coan) and even our nervous systems have a preference for the social engagement circuitry that sustains connection (Porges).

With this kind of support from the biology inherent in both practitioner and patient, our bodies may begin to open into a welcoming state as others come towards us, with a sense of partnership being established rather than someone doing something to us.

However this also means letting go of the potential certainty that comes from feeling we are in charge.”
― Bonnie Badenoch, The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships

“Our infant bodies don’t actually know that we are separate beings at all. An infant only exists in relationship. It is natural for infants to try to give the only thing they have—their own nervous systems—to try to balance and care for their parents. This longing for the other’s well-being can become an unconscious contract to always try to make things better for the people we love, no matter the cost to ourselves.

Peyton, Sarah. Your Resonant Self Workbook: From Self-sabotage to Self-care (p. 16). W. W. Norton & Company. Kindle Edition.”
― Sarah Peyton, Your Resonant Self Workbook: From Self-sabotage to Self-care