Narrative Therapy Quotes

“And it's just dawned on me that I might be the author of my own story, but so is everyone else the author of their own stories, and sometimes, like now, there's no overlap.”
― Jandy Nelson, The Sky Is Everywhere

“Think about the word destroy. Do you know what it is? De-story. Destroy. Destory. You see. And restore. That's re-story. Do you know that only two things have been proven to help survivors of the Holocaust? Massage is one. Telling their story is another. Being touched and touching. Telling your story is touching. It sets you free.”
― Francesca Lia Block, Baby Be-Bop

“Wirklichkeit besteht aus miteinander geteilten Geschichten.”
― Arist von Schlippe, Lehrbuch der systemischen Therapie und Beratung II: Das störungsspezifische Wissen

“In one of the notebooks he carried with him, Nietzsche wrote, "We have art lest we perish from the truth." For those leading afterlives, the unadorned facts of what's happened to them can be brutish to bear on their own terms. Contextualizing that hardship through our intellects and imaginations is a critical salve, an act of transforming our perception that can guide and color how we experience our lives. We can knead our experiences into a larger arc, providing the cohesion that helps us form new narrative identities. Or we can look deeper into our afterlives until we ferret out a way of construing them that rouses our spirits or points them toward salvation. In her essay collection The White Album, Joan Didion delivered a pronouncement that was a natural descendants to Nietzsche's line, an admission of how desperately we rely on the subjective fictions we construct: "We tell ourselves stories in order to live." Those stories--whether they take the form of redemption narratives, personal parables, or the pearlescent beliefs we kneel before each day like shrines offering eternal grace--can elevate our lives and serve as the vessels of private deliverance.”
― Mike Mariani, What Doesn't Kill Us Makes Us: Who We Become After Tragedy and Trauma

“Sogno infranto come un'incubo vissuto, io che nel sonno ti aspettavo, nel sonno mi hai sorpreso”
― Gina Scanzani, Eccomi ci sono ancora

“The Lebanese American poet Kahlil Gibran wrote, "The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." The catastrophes that carve themselves deep inside of us also leave us with increased depth, augmenting the volume of feeling we're able to hold. And how can we measure devotion but by how much the vessels that we become for our art, faith, saviors, and crusades have the capacity to contain?”
― Mike Mariani, What Doesn't Kill Us Makes Us: Who We Become After Tragedy and Trauma