Raising Children Quotes

“Mom always said people worried too much about their children. Suffering when you're young is good for you, she said. It immunized your body and your soul, and that was why she ignored us kids when we cried. Fussing over children who cry only encouraged them, she told us. That's positive reinforcement for negative behavior.”
― Jeannette Walls, The Glass Castle

“If I had received good instruction as a child I would be with my family today and at peace with my neighbors. I hope and pray that all you parents in the sound of my voice will train up your children in the way they should go.”
― Charles Portis, True Grit

“Thus if we know a child has had sufficient opportunity to observe and acquire a behavioral sequence, and we know he is physically capable of performing the act but does not do so, then it is reasonable to assume that it is motivation which is lacking. The appropriate countermeasure then involves increasing the subjective value of the desired act relative to any competing response tendencies he might have, rather than having the model senselessly repeat an already redundant sequence of behavior.”
― Urie Bronfenbrenner, Two Worlds of Childhood: U.S. and U.S.S.R.

“You want to know the secret to raising good kids?”
“What’s that? asked Thomas.
“High expectations.”
Thomas laughed. “Alright, well what’s the secret to a happy marriage?”
Clyde smiled back, but his face started to fall, and he chose his words carefully. “… Low expectations.”
― Chris Nicolaisen, The Life and Death of the Ericsons

“Instead of asking your child what they learned today, ask them who they helped today.”
― Kevin Kelly, Excellent Advice for Living: Wisdom I Wish I'd Known Earlier

“She was deemed an unfit mother, in spite of the fact that she goes to the gym every day,' Hal once told me.
. . .Beautiful people are often forgiven for many things--and maybe she's gotten through life that way, but I don't forgive her for anything--and I don't even know what awful things she's done other than showing a lack of parental fitness.”
― Neal Shusterman, Challenger Deep

“It was then, for the first time, that Will saw the kind of help Marcus needed. Fiona had given him the idea that Marcus was after a father figure, someone to guide him gently towards male adulthood, but that wasn't it at all: Marcus needed help to be a kid, not an adult.”
― Nick Hornby

“You raise boys to reject everything feminine then get mad when they become men who hate women.”
― Darnell Lamont Walker

“Raise your sons to be
better humans, before you tell your
daughters
to cover up.”
― Shirani Rajapakse, The Way It Is

“The rules for raising children had gone out with her parents generation of daughters who had lived as Lucy had, in patient silence, acting by standards which had lasted generations, waiting to grow up to make their decisions, following the patterns of their own lives.”
― Susan Richards Shreve, You Are the Love of My Life

“It's wrong and unhealthy to deny a child the world of make-believe.”
― Abhijit Naskar

“Watch your children grow, and they will teach you what you’ve taught them.”
― Frank Sonnenberg, Leadership by Example: Be a role model who inspires greatness in others

“If I had a child, I wouldn't teach them a single thing about the culture I was raised in - instead I'll hand over all the cultures I've assimilated throughout my life, so that one day they may grow up to be a whole human being, rather than a puny fragmented ape - so that they may become a large person in a small planet, rather than a small primate in a large world.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Little Planet on The Prairie: Dunya Benim, Sorumluluk Benim

“Give a child too much freedom, and he’ll make you a child.”
― Tamerlan Kuzgov

“When raising children, it is not 'making memories' that matters. It is the making of a home. That home is us—the state of our mind and heart. We are what makes the memory of a child. Who we are, who we become as a parent and a person, and how we respond to them and their needs is the most critical element in setting them up for their venture into life. When raising a child, it is time to make ourselves into something as memorable as possible.
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― Donna Goddard, Touched by Love

“What distinguishes the way a caring family or state institution treats a child from the way an investor would, if they’re both primarily concerned with the child’s future success? An investor may want an asset to achieve its full potential, but the investor doesn’t particularly care whether that kid is happy while they do it. A caring parent, on the other hand, balances an interest in a child’s future achievement with the child’s present wellbeing.”
― Malcolm Harris, Kids These Days: Human Capital and the Making of Millennials

“Our children is what will be left of us in a generation that we will not be a part of.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“Who we were will be boldly illustrated in whatever our children became.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“Children are the next generation under construction.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“And if we ourselves have a vocation, if we have not betrayed it, if over the years we have continued to love it, to serve it passionately, we are able to keep all sense of ownership out of our love for our children. But if on the other hand we do not have a vocation, or if we have abandoned it or betrayed it out of cynicism or a fear of life, or because of mistaken parental love, or because of some little virtue that exists within us, then we cling to our children as a shipwrecked mariner clings to a tree trunk.”
― Natalia Ginzburg, The Little Virtues

“How can we, as parents, raise resilient, self-driven children who are truly prepared for a world that’s rapidly changing, when traditional schooling often prioritizes outdated facts and test scores over essential skills, character, and an entrepreneurial mindset?”
― Dr Jade Blake

“Motherhood is both a beautiful dance and a brutally gut-wrenching exercise in self-
control. As much as we want to jump in and solve every one of our children’s problems, we must
now sit on the sidelines, letting them learn to live without us. And as they begin to learn, we learn
something too. We learn to pray without ceasing. And we learn God has an Act II just for us.
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Raising children to be capable adults is one of the most amazing, agonizing, beautiful,
and painful things we will ever do. We celebrate our children’s independence while mourning
their departure. In fact, if we grieve their going, we most likely did it right.
I had no idea of the surprises God had in store for me, and He has them for you, too.”
― Kate Battistelli, The After Party of the Empty Nest: Mom is Not Your Only Name

“Even in the little while she'd been teaching, she'd met parents who didn't seem to care about their children, regarding them as more of a burden than a blessing, and she'd also met parents who seemed to believe their child could do no wrong. Both were impossible to deal with.”
― Nicholas Sparks, A Bend in the Road

“Our cultures make it seem as if male children are worthier than female ones, but that is not the case. The value of a child is not a function of what he or she can bring to the family, ability to work in the farm or protect their
clan or community. The value of a child is not in whether he or she will carry on the name of the family. ... All children are worth in the same way, irrespective of gender. ...children are a gift from God, and the worst thing is when the person receiving this gift fails to appreciate its value.”
― Benjamin Nzuki

“When we hurt children, it is God’s plan we
indirectly try to frustrate, since it is for His pleasure that people exist.”
― Benjamin Nzuki

“To a child, whatever is being done by adults is good and worth imitating. Many children have embraced societal vices as they emulated adults, who do not even understand that children are learning from them. Those caring for children should make sure they do what is noble and trustworthy because they are unknowingly training them.”
― Benjamin Nzuki

“Families are setting aside more money to buy school books every year, yet there is no budget for the Bible. Sad, isn’t it! Our children need to be exposed to the word of God when they are young so that they may grow with the knowledge of the same.”
― Benjamin Nzuki

“God wanted parents to train their children in the way of the Lord. Deuteronomy 6:1, 2 says: “These are the commands, decrees and laws the LORD your God directed me to teach you to observe in the land that you are crossing the Jordan to possess. So that you, your children and their children after them may fear the LORD your God as long as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that I give you, and so that you may enjoy long life.” It was expected that every Jewish parent will have a relationship with God and be qualified to instruct his children on how to relate with the Lord.”
― Benjamin Nzuki

“It goes without saying that people who interact with your children will influence them. If they are godless, they will influence your children in that direction. Parents and caregivers who are serious with the faith will therefore shield their children from the irreligious community by always reminding them of the purpose God has on them.”
― Benjamin Nzuki

“بچه ها به اندازه ی کافی قاضی، دادستان و شاکی دارند؛ پدر و مادرها می توانند وکیل مدافع کودک باشند.”
― Adele Faber, Liberated Parents, Liberated Children: Your Guide to a Happier Family – The Indispensable Companion on Communication that Builds Self-Esteem and Inspires Confidence