Sex Positivity Quotes

“A sex worker who is living precariously or in poverty, who is at risk of criminalization or police violence, or who is being exploited by a manager or lacks negotiating power is not likely to be particularly 'sex positive' at work. These factors are structural, not a function of the worker's state of enlightenment.”
― Molly Smith, Revolting Prostitutes: The Fight for Sex Workers’ Rights

“In the sex-positive community, I found countless women who were sexually liberated and open, and required only one thing - that they be empowered and in control of the context, because that's how they felt safe enough to truly let go.”
― Neil Strauss, The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

“All our wonderful sexual freedom is dependent on two very important conditions: freedom from sexism and freedom from rape. These changes must take place at both the individual and community levels. Prosecuting rape and child molestation is quite difficult, so our communities need to work for our own safety. We can seldom send offenders to jail, but we can uninvite them from our parties, and remove them from the other environments that we control, both online and in the physical world.
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Much of this conflict is the consequence of our absurd cultural insistence that in sex, men should be the initiators and women the withholders. Thus, some people learn that they are supposed to be pushy and others that saying anything but no is, well, slutty. This pattern leads to “no” being heard as an invitation to push harder, with predictably disastrous results.”
― Dossie Easton, The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities

“It's not your business what I do with my body, or what Alim does with his. You have no 'right' to me, we weren't together, we weren't even exclusive. You're not entitled to fuck me just because you were a decent human being and went along when I wasn't ready to be intimate with you, or be mad because I ended up fucking someone else. You don't get points for waiting for me. I didn't use you, I didn't lead you on. I went as far as I felt comfortable, and I stopped there.”
― Akwaeke Emezi, You Made a Fool of Death with Your Beauty

“say bismillah
before you eat me”
― Xayaat Muhummed

“everyone thinks jinns possessed us
no
we’re just possessive”
― Xayaat Muhummed, The Breast Mountains Of All Time Are In Hargeisa

“i want to think of light pink splattered flowers when you fuck me

&i want to have all of you forever”
― Malab, The Komorébi

“Unfortunately, the majority of young people in the United States don't receive comprehensive sexuality education that includes information on pleasurable and fulfilling sexual relationships. We also live in a sex negative culture that includes a lot of oversexualization, sex stigma, and body shaming so there are few positive and pleasurable representations of sexuality for young people. Many young people are curious about sex and how it works. As a result many young people turn to the internet and end up looking at porn to figure it out. That's like watching the Fast and the Furious to learn how to drive. Porn is not a realistic representation of healthy, pleasurable, communicative, and responsible sex.”
― Shafia Zaloom, Sex, Teens, and Everything in Between: The New and Necessary Conversations Today’s Teenagers Need to Have about Consent, Sexual Harassment, Healthy Relationships, Love, and More

“say بسمالله
before you eat me”
― Xayaat Muhummed, The Breast Mountains Of All Time Are In Hargeisa

“bet ya think i’m forbidden huh
but i’m not riba
i just wanna interest ya”
― Xayaat Muhummed, The Breast Mountains Of All Time Are In Hargeisa

“Sex is so profound that it underpins politics, economics and psychological well-being. Sex belongs to the dimension of revolution. Any new society must have a revolutionary approach to sex. Sexual liberation is toxic to authoritarian systems. It is no accident that all dictatorships are sexually repressive. It is no accident that the authoritarian, patriarchal Abrahamic religions despise and fear sex. The elite control the sexual space and through that they control you. A free society is sexually free – not just in name but in deed. One of the primary aims of any healthy society should be to promote the highest quality sex, and to remove all of the restrictions and taboos that are imposed on it.”
― Adam Weishaupt, Sex for Salvation

“The more I write openly into the space of sexual sovereignty, the more I hear from humans desperate for a safe space to share. Those who have nowhere to be fully honest and real about the whys and hows and whats and whos of their body and its desire. ⁠

What turns us on? What brings us pleasure? What completely normal and natural variation of human sexuality have we labeled deviant simply because it does not fit within the prescribed heteronormative, vanilla narrative for what we are permitted to experience? Where do we berate ourselves because we like what we like and we want what we want?⁠

It's a fucking shame that we've driven so much into the shadows. It's a travesty that we are forced to squeeze the entire spectrum of desire into such a tightly constructed box. ⁠

You've got 22 square feet of skin covering your holy human body—of course, there's a hell of a lot of different ways to make that skin feel good. ⁠

Coincidentally, 22 square feet is approximately the size of a standard closet door., and we all know a closet is a terrible place to live.

When we force people into the closet, we cause harm. We create an experience of othering based on our own discomfort and unwillingness to expand our notions of acceptability.⁠

We NEED to start having way more honest, open, and raw conversations about sex, desire, and kink.⁠

We need to blow the remaining closets to smithereens. ⁠

We need to talk about how to embrace the power of full, enthusiastic consent and expand our sex-positivity and our ability to say 'that's so not for me, but GO YOU and your bad self feeling all that pleasure'. We need to start really thinking about how, as long as we bring no harm to others in the fulfillment of desire, we aren't fucking wrong for the wanting. ⁠

Embrace your queerness or your kink or your fetish in your journal or to your bestie or to an internet stranger. Hell, start by whispering it out loud in an empty room and then breathe the power of that back into your being. ⁠

You are human. You get to want. You get to feel good. Anything else is blasphemy.”
― Jeanette LeBlanc

“We’ve all lived too damn long lugging around this puritanical notion that pleasure must be villainized to protect us from ourselves.⁠

Fuck that.⁠

Seriously.⁠

The only question you need to ask is this:⁠

Is everyone involved in full personal safety and enthusiastic consent?⁠

Ask it loudly and repeatedly if you need to.⁠

Yes?⁠

Then you go with your bad, brilliant, beautiful, pleasure-filled self.⁠

Our bodies are here to feel good.⁠

And what makes that happen isn’t for anyone else to decide.⁠

It doesn’t matter whether you’re outside the gender binary, into collars and restraints, love someone with the same parts, desire more than one human, or have a kinky turn on others think is weird.⁠

Monogamous, polyamorous, relationship anarchist, vanilla, kinky—whatever your flavor, it’s valid.⁠

We’ve all wasted way too much damn time in the closet.⁠

End of story.”
― Jeanette LeBlanc