Taking Things Personally Quotes

“When you lose your ego, you win. It really is that simple.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“When someone is cruel, harsh, mean, to not take their words personally is one thing, but to hear the silent cry within those words is another. This sort of perspective can not only liberate us from crippling self-doubt in the face of criticism, it can also liberate us from automatically becoming blind participants in the interaction patterns that the cruel person has become accustomed to—a favour we do for the other person as much as for ourselves.”
― Vironika Tugaleva

“You can never take anything personally. Just a story. It’s not their fault they want to kick you and it’s certainly not yours. It’s just the way things are. Sometimes you need to hear the worst, so you have no fear in what you do and learn to work around the what-have-you.”
― Initially NO, Percipience: Outside the range of understood sense

“When you let it get personal, the cost becomes personal too. You’re opening your own heart here. You sure you want to do that?”
― Michael Marshall Smith, Stories: All-New Tales

“When people compliment you, by all means say thank you. Politeness is recognizing that someone has extended a kindness to you. In your own mind, however, remind yourself that someone already confirmed that the dress was cute; you did--when you bought it. Part of the reason taking things personally is best avoided is because we can never know the source of the comment.”
― Samara O'Shea, Loves Me... Not: How to Survive (and Thrive!) in the Face of Unrequited Love

“If someone gives you an opinion and says, "Hey, you look so fat," don't take it personally, because the truth is that this person is dealing with his or her own feelings, beliefs, and opinions. That person tried to send poison to you and if you take it personally, then you take that poison and it becomes yours. Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

“Don't take anything personally. Even if someone got a gun and shot you in the head, it was nothing personal. Even at that extreme.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

“Whenever one is exposed to that which goes against a certain belief they hold and it triggers an emotional reaction, they ought to take it as an opportunity to re-examine the belief — preferably along with their entire reality tunnel. Over time people get comfortable with their own convictions, they may become dogmatic in their views and opinions. Anything coming from outside the norm then tends to be feared, judged, rejected, vilified. That is, because it challenges the way they had been leading their lives.

Say if something someone said made you angry, dig deep within your inner being and investigate the reason for your anger. Ask yourself why you are taking it personally. Oftentimes, you see, the impulsive reaction has subconscious roots coming from the part of you that knows that you have no legit reason to think or feel as such.

Other times, it is the awareness of the existence of some degree of truth in what you had seen, heard, or read that irks you. It was Rumi who said: “If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?”

Seeing through our own convictions with impartial eyes allows us to see them under a different and often deeper light, possibly transcending them. You deal with one matter at a time and you do so by observing the thoughts and emotions without ever forgetting you are not them. For like the ocean waves, they are temporary, ephemeral, transient while you remain the generator as well as observer.

It matters not if you fully agree with the different view at the end. Neither is there any need to identify, believe, judge, condemn, or to follow it into oblivion.

But do take the chance to look into yourself. For you will likely end up learning something from the experience — including some self-knowledge. The challenge would either strengthen your argument(s) or offer you a different perspective(s). Perhaps a bit of both if one is lucky.

A confident person does not feel threatened when coming across an opposing view or opinion. Not only do they cause no harm, but the exposure may actually have some benefits.”
― Omar Cherif

“Whenever one is exposed to that which goes against a certain belief they hold and it triggers an emotional reaction, they ought to take it as an opportunity to re-examine the belief — preferably along with their entire reality tunnel. Over time people get comfortable with their own convictions, they may become dogmatic in their views and opinions. Anything coming from outside the norm then tends to be feared, judged, rejected, vilified. That is, because it challenges the way they had been leading their lives.

Say if something someone said made you angry, dig deep within your inner being and investigate the reason for your anger. Ask yourself why you are taking it personally. Oftentimes, you see, the impulsive reaction has subconscious roots coming from the part of you that knows that you have no legit reason to think or feel as such.

Other times, it is the awareness of the existence of some degree of truth in what you had seen, heard, or read that irks you. It was Rumi who said: “If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?”

Seeing through our own convictions with impartial eyes allows us to see them under a different and often deeper light, possibly transcending them. You deal with one matter at a time and you do so by observing the thoughts and emotions without ever forgetting you are not them. For like the ocean waves, they are temporary, ephemeral, transient while you remain the generator as well as observer.

It matters not if you fully agree with the different view at the end. Neither is there any need to identify, believe, judge, condemn, or to follow it into oblivion. But do take the chance to look into yourself. For you will likely end up learning something from the experience — including some self-knowledge. The challenge would either strengthen your argument(s) or offer you a different perspective(s). Perhaps a bit of both if one is lucky.

A confident person does not feel threatened when coming across an opposing view or opinion. Not only do they cause no harm, but the exposure may actually have some benefits.”
― Omar Cherif