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May 02, 2013 09:17AM
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my 2 best friends hate each other and i am always torn between them, because i can't be with them both at the same time. it's really annoying
I am torn between backing away from my friends and staying with them.
I can't at times. They usually shut me out of the conversation.
Ugh, same here. I hated being there.
The only reason I got out of it was because the two friends that had shut me out split. *shrug* I wish I could help, L.
They are like tides. They sometimes come up and talk to me for a long time and be like a friend, but other times they just shut me out of everything, mainly at lunch.
Same here. I hate it when people do that...
Between telling my mom about my sexuality....
I am torn between keeping my freinds or letting them go, letting them go will protect them from me...
Jessy wrote: "Why do they hate each other?"
oh you, know. one massive misunderstanding turned into one even more massive bitch fight. everyone taking sides and being horrible to each other. and i get stuck in the middle. i can't support either of them because then the other one will think i don't like them
oh you, know. one massive misunderstanding turned into one even more massive bitch fight. everyone taking sides and being horrible to each other. and i get stuck in the middle. i can't support either of them because then the other one will think i don't like them
Jessy wrote: "Do you need to talk about it Kass?"
I don't know....
I don't know....
Jessy wrote: "Do you need to talk about it Kass?"
I don't know....
I don't know....
I am torn between loosing weight or not.
I just looked up my BMI and it looks like I am almost over weight.
I guess I should loose some weight..
I guess I should loose some weight..
Well, I am not, but I am a bit too close. The bad thing isi have no means to do it.
Don't eat: mom gets frustrated
Works out: Family teases me
Goes for a walk: family teases me
Don't eat: mom gets frustrated
Works out: Family teases me
Goes for a walk: family teases me

I guess I should loose some weight.."
BMI is not always entirely accurate to judge by. According to the BMI calculator, I am overweight, but measurement wise, I am not. I have a lot of muscle, haha, and it is true that muscle weighs more than fat.
I would recommend judging it by waist ratio than BMI. And ditto what Jessy said.
But I can't do either of those things. My mom will get frustrated if I watch my calories/ not eat.
Every time I exercise when it isn't for a grade my sister is like: *gasp* your working out? What a shock!
And my mom is like: I think hell just froze over.
Everytime I try to go on a walk my sister is like: The sun might make her melt! She has never seen the light of day!
Every time I exercise when it isn't for a grade my sister is like: *gasp* your working out? What a shock!
And my mom is like: I think hell just froze over.
Everytime I try to go on a walk my sister is like: The sun might make her melt! She has never seen the light of day!
My mom says I am healthy enough, that is why she gets frustrated.
L, you need to eat or you'll get sick. With your mom and sister teasing you, just ignore them. If you want to exercise then do it. But don't exercise so much that it becomes compulsive.

Every time I exercise when it isn't for a grade my sister is like: *gasp* your working out? What..."
It's not good that they heckle you for exercising and then heckle you for not exercising. Talk about a Catch-22.
Ditto, Jessy. And commit yourself to it. Maybe find a friend that will exercise with you. Having a friend with you makes commiting to an exercise routine easier. Mine is my Great Dane Daisy ;)

Summer wrote: "L. *Trapped and looking for freedom* wrote: "But I can't do either of those things. My mom will get frustrated if I watch my calories/ not eat.
Every time I exercise when it isn't for a grade my ..."
The problem is that I can't drive and I have no friends on this side of my town. All the kids my age in the neighborhood hate me and the you get ones have come to also. I can't take my dogs out for a walk because they will bark at people and will fight with the one dog in my neighborhood that just wonders out into the street when I pass.
Every time I exercise when it isn't for a grade my ..."
The problem is that I can't drive and I have no friends on this side of my town. All the kids my age in the neighborhood hate me and the you get ones have come to also. I can't take my dogs out for a walk because they will bark at people and will fight with the one dog in my neighborhood that just wonders out into the street when I pass.
If you go to church, then maybe see if someone from there will exercise with you.
Mackenzie wrote: "If you go to church, then maybe see if someone from there will exercise with you."
I don't. I am agnostic and family doesn't go, so even if I was religious I couldn't go since I can't drive.
I don't. I am agnostic and family doesn't go, so even if I was religious I couldn't go since I can't drive.
It's no problem. Sorry if I offended you.
You didn't offend me. I'm just kinda spacey today
I totally agree, Summer. I have an exercise playlist and it can keep me going for hours

That's tough... personally, I would try talking to both of them. Your friends so that they know how you feel, and the school because they can help you from getting bullied further. Maybe??? .... but that's still a hard situation. Hmmm...
I guess...
I really can't exercise until band camp, which is at the end of July. Hopefully tha will help me a bit..
I really can't exercise until band camp, which is at the end of July. Hopefully tha will help me a bit..
@Kat--maybe see if you can tell the school confidentially? That's what I did. It worked pretty well.
Kaitlyn wrote: "I was torn between telling the school about me being bullied by my old friends or keeping quiet so my old friends wouldn't get even madder at me"
Was? Is that a typo or did you make up your mind?
If anything, don't tell the school and space yourself from those 'friends'. I went through the same thing with a person and it followed me onto this website.
Was? Is that a typo or did you make up your mind?
If anything, don't tell the school and space yourself from those 'friends'. I went through the same thing with a person and it followed me onto this website.


@Kat--oh ok. Just let us know if you need anything. We are here for you!
Kaitlyn wrote: "Okay, well I spaced myself from them but they still came after me. They're just a bunch of two faced people."
Just keep trying. Maybe they will get the hint. If they don't after a selected period of time(you choose), then tell them strait up you don't wanna hand out with them anymore.
Block them on every social network tha you have and they are on too.
Just keep trying. Maybe they will get the hint. If they don't after a selected period of time(you choose), then tell them strait up you don't wanna hand out with them anymore.
Block them on every social network tha you have and they are on too.

I am here for you too, Kat. I think Mackenzie makes a good point of telling someone confidentially about it, and I think L makes a good point that you should probably distance yourself from the 'friends' who bully you.
I was lucky. One of those 'friends' moved halfway across the country not too long after that
I kind of wish I could be homeschooled.
That's good. My church has a homeschool group
Yeah. My parents think the schools here are great though.

That's good.
I have to go for now. I'll be back in like 2 hours hopefully. Love you guys!
I have to go for now. I'll be back in like 2 hours hopefully. Love you guys!