Chicks On Lit discussion

What are yours?

Rude people! And when my family can't hang up towels the right way (I know it's kind of weird but c'mon how tough is it?).

Pet peeves related to books, or just in general?

I don't think I really have any pet peeves related to books or reading, except when I'm getting interrupted like every 10 minutes. That happens when I read at my desk at work(which I do when it's crappy out).

In general - I absolutely hate when I'm in line at the grocery store and someone puts down an orange separater even though there's like 2 feet of space between my stuff and their's. It's like they're insulting the cashier's intelligence AND are too anti-social to just say "Oh, those are mine." It makes me want to stick that darn orange thing in their eye. Seriously, if I EVER ran the world, those orange things would be outlawed.

If we're talking about reading, I agree with Sarah. I read while my husband watches tv and he is forever talking to me about something going on in a show and disrupting me even tho' he knows I'm not watching.

Main one...Impatient people. I hate when I'm standing in line, be it the grocery store or somewhere else and the person behind me is sighing and/or making rude comments about the cashier/service person. It makes me want to turn around and smack them. It's a line, stand in it, the person is cashing as fast as they can, deal with it, or go away!
That also goes for drivers who decide to get right on your bumper even though the person in front of you is the one going slow and/or (HELLO!) doing the speed limit. And they get so impatient that they yank the wheel over hard to go around you. Or they just stay on your bumper, go around!

LinBee wrote: "Main one...Impatient people. I hate when I'm standing in line, be it the grocery store or somewhere else and the person behind me is sighing and/or making rude comments about the cashier/service p..."

Or the ones who drive in the lane that they know is going to end and just assume you will let them in!

I live in Florida, so they're apparently everywhere, Kelly Jo. But yeah, I agree with the trash can thing too.

And Lisa, yeah, that's true too. Or ones who won't let you in either. They'll speed up and slow down so you get stuck!

E-mails that tell me that I must pass this on to 5 (or whatever number of people) immediately OR:

I will have bad luck,

my wish won't be granted,

I will not get unexpected money,

or am not a true Christian because I would forward a joke and not a blessing chain letter. (sorry, I don't think God has time for that kind of foolishness)

I'm with you guys on the rude drivers!

People who turn the corners down in Library books or underline them

Ohhh LinBee, that's a good one. I feel so bad for the cashier when someone is being all huffy because they're in a hurry. I always see it on a weekend - I want to ask the person "What were you expecting on a Sunday afternoon??"

And yes, I can't stand rude or impatient drivers either. I've tried to just let it go - if someone is tailgating, I just switch lanes and let them pass and then switch back, saving myself the energy it takes to be so annoyed with them. I also hate it when people stop on a two-lane road to let someone turn in or out of somewhere - I've seen so many accidents happen because the people in the other lane don't realize it and end up hitting that person who's trying to turn.

I have way to many pet peeves. I think if I list them all you guys might ban me from the group. LOL Let's just say everything mentioned above are all on my list. So I will give my Top 5...

1. When you hold the door open for someone and they don't say thank you.

2. When people don't respect your personal space. I should be able to have my arms out and spin in a circle and you should not be in that area.

3. Gossip. I hate gossip. I hate that people feel the need to gossip. Gossip is childish. It should be left in high school, where it belongs.

4. When people talk on their cell phones when at the cash register, while at dinner with others, etc. Shut the damn thing off!

5. Parents that feel the need to put down other parents for their parenting choices, styles, etc. We are all doing the same thing -- raising children!

Oh yeah, Mandy Sue, the cell phone thing drives me nuts! The Bluetooth things really drive me nuts when I'm in a store and someone in the same aisle starts talking and you can't tell right away if they are talking to you or if they are on the phone.

The cell phone at the cash register or counter is my biggest one. That's actually what prompted me to start this thread. :)

I'm with you guys on the cell phone too. I work in a library, and while I do admit they aren't nearly as quiet as they used to be (we don't shush anyone really, unless they are overly loud), people who sit on the computer and answer their cell phone, then proceed to have a loud conversation about their medical problems or some someone did really is annoying. I can understand if you forgot to turn off the ringer, answer and tell the person you will call them back, but honestly.
I also had a person while I was teaching a computer class (it's a small room with about 15 people in it), answer his cell phone, and proceed to start a conversation...That just was amazing to me. A 50+ year old man should definitely know better!

People answering cell phones during a movie and having a full on convo is my number one pet peeve. I can't stand that!!! Even letting it ring irks me. Its a movie, two hrs, let it go to voicemail or put it on vibrate and then take the call in the lobby. Ridiculous!! I don't spend money to see a movie and hear people chat on their phone....come on!! LOL

The cell phone ones are definitely big pet peeves with me, too! There's just too many rude people out there. I always wonder what's so important that people can't stay off their phones when driving, in lines, etc...I can understand if it's an emergency but the people I see doing it are laughing or talking about a bunch of crap.

OK, maybe I don't get out much. Would it bother you if those people were having the same conversation in a line with a person face to face?

Sounds crazy, but when the toilet paper roll hangs upside down. I hate it rolling into the trash can!

Elizabeth wrote: "OK, maybe I don't get out much. Would it bother you if those people were having the same conversation in a line with a person face to face? "

Elizabeth ~ When growing up my Grandmother was very big on etiquette and it is instilled in my brain. Most of my pet peeves are manner-related. I honestly feel that over the past 10-20 years people forgot how to act appropriately and now proper etiquette is out the window. It's a shame really.
So, in answer to your question I feel if anything is done with proper etiquette, it is okay. For example, if your cell phone rings at the restaurant and you need to take the call...you excuse yourself and go take the call out of the way of disturbing those around you and not appearing rude to those who are accompanying you. Just call me Miss Manners. LOL

Roberta ~ I have a toilet paper gripe too. My mother puts it on the wrong way and I always change it when I am at her house. It's always been a battle between us.

I'm with ya on the toilet paper roll problem, bugs me too!

Impatient drivers!!! People here turn across the highway with no regard for the cars around them. Do you really need to turn in front of me when there's no one behind me? I'm used to huge freeways, but here there are one lane highways. Eight lane freeways I'm okay with (the bad driving gets spread out), but on the one lane roads it's so condensed.

Ladies, please take a moment to think about how you are handling this stress in your life. Mis-handling stress will cause you great harm over your lifetime, including especially heart disease and stroke. Work on identifying which of these you can just let go. You'll be doing yourself a huge favor.

LinBee wrote: "Main one...Impatient people. I hate when I'm standing in line, be it the grocery store or somewhere else and the person behind me is sighing and/or making rude comments about the cashier/service p..."I am a Sigher, but not because of impatience with people around me. My husband is constantlyu asking me "what" as if I am upset with him, when after 20 years I am just tired or lost in thought about what I am writing, or trying to figure out how I am going to get everything done, inotherwords, my little world and if I run it or not. It is all about me, me, e, not about him or anyone else. . . . - hmmm, maybe that is rude , like that is my version of an orange seperator at the cashier line? I am afraid that I have sso few chances to talk or chat with people I am going to talk them to death. I hate people who act patient when you are driving them crazy, and you know you are being put up with. Ugh. I want to push them away and just say, "Run, I can't shut up." Doin't people know that talkers know they talk to much, or that boring people Know when they are boring. Just walk off, or kindly but pointedly tell them that you need to cut them off because you are tired and your listener is broke, or you need to talk to this other person. Cut them off. We need a baseball bat upside the head to be able to stop.

Lisa wrote: "Oh yeah, Mandy Sue, the cell phone thing drives me nuts! The Bluetooth things really drive me nuts when I'm in a store and someone in the same aisle starts talking and you can't tell right away if..."Or if they are having auditory and visual hallucinations, especially if they ar emotioning with their hands.

Marge wrote: "Pet peeves: uncapped toothpaste, pompous and arrogant people, people who walk with their UNleased dogs, slow drivers on the freeway, and the worst - being called a snob because I have literary stan..."The snob thing - yeah. Some of us don't read the literature because it is LiTRAture, but because as C S Lewis said "read it because it's a jolly good read."

Mandy Sue wrote: "1. When you hold the door open for someone and they don't say thank you.
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Oh I am Sooooo with you on this one! I was just complaining the other day about this. And not only for when they hold the door open for you, but just in general. Please, thank you and your welcome, I rarely hear those words anymore, even though I am always saying them all the time.

I have a ton of pet peeves. I'll just list a few:

1. Chewing with your mouth open. It's just gross. And I don't want to hear you enjoy your meal.
2. Interrupting me when I'm reading, especially to ask what I'm doing or what I'm reading.
3. Flagrant disrespect for people in charge--from a babysitter to the President. Whether you like them or not, they're in charge, so shut it!
4. Slow drivers. Especially going down the highway in the middle or fast lanes.
5. This one's going to make me sound mean, but ignorance and stupidity. I can't be a teacher because I just get so bloody frustrated when people just don't understand something, especially after 2 explanations.

Mandy Sue wrote: "Roberta ~ I have a toilet paper gripe too. My mother puts it on the wrong way and I always change it when I am at her house. It's always been a battle between us."

Yippee! I am not the only one! My mother comes to my house and puts the toilet paper the wrong way....

Pleas tell me , what is the WRONG way? What's right for you is probably WRONG for someone else. Why don't you place it the way you want in your own home?
Of all the problems around us, this does not seem earthshaking.

I can survive and even thrive through the earthshaking. But the toilet paper kinds of things are what will send a chair through the front window.

Ah Mandy, Totally agree with the right way to place TP. Don't care where I'm at, I will change the TP if it's not right! (according to me) ha
and Yoby-Agree. Sometimes its the little things that just make us go over the edge!

Ohhhhh........ huge pet peeve of mine....... keep in mind I have two boys........ keep in mind that I also have 3 bathrooms in my house.... 3 sinks.... but they INSIST on using mine.......... the pet peeve comes in when they are shaving............

I absolutely HATE hair/whiskers in the sink or the counter in the bathroom!!! How long does it take for you to wipe the sink and counter out?????

dogs who won't sweep up after themselves when they are shedding their summer fur. Puppies who can figure out how to open every door in the house but won't get themselves outside when they need to pee or poop

I prefer to put my toilet paper on the 'wrong' way. Not just because I like being difficult. It's just the way I like it!

I would love to know how to do that too Mandy!!

Teri, I just luv ya! Have a good day! :)

Elizabeth wrote: "Ladies, please take a moment to think about how you are handling this stress in your life. Mis-handling stress will cause you great harm over your lifetime, including especially heart disease and s..."

My best way of handling my stress is to gripe about it. Honestly, I complain a lot, but it keeps me from internalizing it. I try not to continually stress. But there are just some things that make me grit my teeth.

I think we react to the small things only because the big problems in life are too large for our immediate solutions.
However, we can take hands-on control over which way the toilet paper is hung.:)

I'm with you Elizabeth, as I've aged I let a lot roll off my back.

With this discussion, I've been thinking about 'pet peeves' lately! A few of mine:
1. Someone who yells at other driver's when you are the only person in the vehicle who is going to hear them!
2. People who are back stabbers. Like they act all nicey nice to your face but behind your back is another story.
3. People who do not take responsibility.
4. People who have always done something better, been somewhere greater, have something bigger, feel something worse, than you!
5. People who are so skinny but always say how fat they are! or skinny people saying how great you look while bragging about their size 4-6!

and I agree that most of the time I let things roll off my back, it's just the ones that turn into something more than pet peeves...what do you call them....those are the ones that really stress me!

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Hey Mandy, when you say put address here; you mean a web site address? What if the pic is on your computer! Umm.. sorry-electronically challenged here! :)

pet peeves in order of 'annoyance factor'...

1. People who don't queue properly (...I am English don't forget! lol!)

2. 'Dark Clouds' - you know the types of people... they wander over to your desk and a dark cloud descends, they moan, whine and generally depress you to tears. But lo and belold as soon as they walk away the sun comes out again and all is right with the world once more. Life's too short for such energy zappers!

3. Reality TV. (...sorry to all those who love it).

4. Theres nothing so boring as a skinny calorie counter.

5. Office Politics and game playing. But that's only because I don't know the rules!

I'm sure I'll think of some more but that's all I have for now.

Ally

You guys are great! I love all these. I think it is stress reducing sometimes just to gripe :)
I hate the email forward thing. Ticks me off badly. I never ever send them and the still keep coming. Yuk.

Cindy wrote: "Hey Mandy, when you say put address here; you mean a web site address? What if the pic is on your computer! Umm.. sorry-electronically challenged here! :)"

Sorry, Cindy. I just saw this. You would have to upload the picture to a website. (photobucket, etc) Then, yes. Add the website url into the quotations.

-Dogs being petted and/or held at the table
-Slow walkers who take up the whole sidewalk
-People who chew with their mouths open
-University students who couldn't be bothered to change out of their pajamas for class
-Guys who wear pants down around their knees