The C word - why so many haters? discussion

I'm with you here, though I can understand why so many women hate it. Like all such words it has been used as a term of contempt and insult for far too long. I personally think that it's way overdue for us to reclaim it. Here I am a disciple of the Lenny Bruce technique. Language can only affect you if you allow it to. My partner and I have always used these words (the other C word, the P word for the same thing, plus many others) in the most loving and tender way. I intend to keep using all these words in my novels in the same way. One day I hope people will lose the contempt.

Peta, that is an excellent point, those words have been used to insult and as a result a negative reaction has been created. I'm with you, let's reclaim them and shift some perspectives.

Thanks for commenting!

Here are some other anatomical words that could be used. I thought a list would be nice. There are only a finite number of words that can be used during sex scenes. Given genre and character demeanor that number becomes even less as you want to use words that flow well with the story.

My plan is to compile a list. I'll start with male genitalia because it is the most fun. ;)

Male sex:
boner
member
erection
cock
dick
penis
shaft
rod
hard on
johnson
schlong
prick (British?)
package
staff
What about food related? sausage? weird huh
Some people just name them. That could be a cute or weird character trait.

Okay that is all I have time for today but I'll be thinking about female names.

Let me know if anybody has more names to populate the list. Thanks

Hi Gina I've got some for the female list.

Vagina
Clit
Bud
Pussy
vajayjay
vag
slit
snatch
cooch
hole
muff.

Feel free to add more if you can think of any.

Hi Gemma,

This is wonderful. It will help authors and readers alike. Can you think of anymore slang for male genitals? It seems like the female anatomy has more descriptive terms than the male.

So for female we have your awesome descriptions and let me see what I can dream up:
Clit
Bud
Pussy
vajayjay
vag
slit
snatch
cooch
hole
muff
center
channel
lips
button
mound
pearl
nub
folds
cleft
crease
heat
wetness
glove
cherry?
of course there is the 'c' word (which I like to use in a male POV, I use it a lot in my books and most of my emails are people asking why hence the discussion)

Here is some for the males...
Doinker
Prick
Cack
Choad
Chub
Pud
Schlong
Wankie
Dong
Wang
Ding a ling
Ding dong
Long dong

They may seem uncommon but they are some more words for it.
Tell me if you need anymore help.

Wow! and I thought I knew them all (or most of them...).
Here's an extract from my novel in which the female side is enumerated (I'll keep a lid on the male side as that section is a bit too risqué...):
"Nick had handled it in the only way he knew how. When he was certain he could not escape he had done two things. The first was to swear Amy to silence on the use of these words. He explained how naughty people had turned them into swear-words, very rude words, and that she should not do this. It was a measure how seriously she took her father and her promises that she was in her 20s before she succinctly told another driver on the road that he was a C#*@! - and then was bathed in a shower of guilt for several days.
The second thing he did was list, as clinically as possible, many of the names for that sacred place. Beginning with vagina, labia, vulva, uterus and clitoris (he left out the functions of each as he had, for once, thought ahead and realised the danger of the clitoris). Then, starting with pussy (she liked this one and ever after referred to her own by this name), he travelled through cunt and cunny and cooch, gash, quim and slit, beaver and bush, twat and front-bum (she thought this was very funny) and several others - leaving out one or two of the most disgusting. Claire had lain in on the bed, naked, legs slightly spread to enable cursory visual examination - feeling a little like a lab specimen - and counting, slowly and gravely in her head, to more than 260 as Nick enumerated and Amy questioned. "
A bit later his wife (Claire) says - when their inquisitive daughter has been sent to bed with a head stuffed full of new words - '...some of the words you came up with! 'Nettle bed! - that's downright insulting. And where did you get 'cabbage' from?’
It's amazing how many words there are. Personally I find most of them very funny, but I do come from a very unjudgmental family...

Oh wow Peta! Very nice snippet! I enjoyed reading it, very playful. I like discovering new phrases and words because there really are a finite number. Nettle bed is not one I knew of before. I will update the list and we will have ourselves a reference. 3 authors: Gina, Gemma, Peta. It's great stuff! Truly fun. I am very open minded as well but hey, I went into the army at 18 years of age and was in Germany for a tour so I don't have a cringeable bone in my body.

Wow Peta. I thought that was a great snippet from your book. Loved it.

This is sooo exciting. As I've said elsewhere on GoodReads, it's lonely when you're skulking behind a pseudonym, unable to bring in your usual friends.

So, thank you, Gina, I responded instantly to your Friend request.
I was introduced to this group by the lovely Charlie B, who was a little concerned by my use of the word. It's really fantastic finally being able to talk with like-minded people.

I don't really think of myself as a writer of erotic fiction. My first and third are mostly family sagas, the second I think what you'd call perigrinatory (to coin a word...). Second and third are a little way from being ready for publishing - it's a problem fitting in job and family and the publicising needed when you self-publish.

And to finish - with reference to lists.... The first is fun, the second, gob-smacking:
http://www.autostraddle.com/listling-...
http://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/...

I hope we all have a great together New Year!! And that we can get people to accept the words (except, of course, for the openly insulting and denigratory and offensive) with reverence and fun.

I agree, it can be lonely out there. I've enjoyed meeting new writers and readers but everything is via inet so everything is virtual and that can make me buggy sometimes as it translates to hours on the computer.

It is hard to manage work, family, and writing, but you've got two books and a third on the way. That's good productivity.

Me and my husband were dying at some of the descriptions: Satan's doorbell. OMG! I don't even get that but it makes it even funnier.

Thanks for sharing and happy new year!!

Gemma wrote: "Here is some for the males...
Doinker
Prick
Cack
Choad
Chub
Pud
Schlong
Wankie
Dong
Wang
Ding a ling
Ding dong
Long dong

They may seem uncommon but they are some more words for it.
Tell me if you..."

Thanks Gemma.

Gina, your welcome. And Peta, I agree with you about talk to like-minded people.

I once had a really embarrassing dinner with some visitors from America. When I said: 'It's time for pud now.' They started sniggering and then dissolved into near hysterics. On the plus side it was a real ice-breaker...
Gemma, I've tried to send you a Friend request but GoodReads seems to be playing fast and loose... Let me know if you don't get it.

I haven't received one a friend request yet.

There's a problem with TED Talks - they're very, very moreish.
However, I was a bit surprised that they also occasionally ban some of their own talks.
This one is particularly apt in regard to what we've been discussing...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ci5p1O...

Really excited today (in my small way...)! I got my third 5-star review on Amazon. The best thing is that two of them are from people I don't know. (Being very strictly pseudonymous, I can't ask friends to post something nice)
So maybe the free Giveaway is starting to pay off.

Finally - Respectability!

http://clementineford.tumblr.com/post...

Peta wrote: "Finally - Respectability!

http://clementineford.tumblr.com/post..."


THANK YOU! I needed this!!

CONGRATS on your five star review! That is a thrill!

Thanks. It really helps a lonely writer's ego... Now all I need to do is sell some books...

Long time inactive...
But couldn't resist sharing this great piece of research:
http://mytinysecrets.com/why-consciou...