Book Buzz discussion

I just wanted to post some observations as I'm reading. Feel free to do the same.

First:
As Kawsar prepares to leave for the stadium, an older woman with her comments that they are "all the same woman"; they resemble the same woman at different stages of life but then Kawsar meets and interacts with women who have had very different experiences: Deqo, the young orphan and Filsan the "good soldier".

Here's a question:

The differences in the 3 main characters are obvious (age, finances, etc) but how are they similar?

Do you feel any sympathy for Filsan?

Although she's a woman with power, everything she does is controlled or influenced by the men around her--the commanding officers, her father.

What does she think she will gain from acting so forcefully--as when she interrogated Kawsar?