Young Adult Book Adventure discussion

I finished the book last night, finished the show months ago, and I understand it is a hard subject and features more difficult subjects that may need to be talked about with a gentle hand.
I want to outright say that I have never had suicidal thoughts and I don't know anyone who truly has suicidal thoughts or tendencies. The book never really covered the topic of depression, which I do know more about personally. As the book never discussed this, neither will I.

I do want to share the "13 Reasons why warning" and let you know that

"if you ever feel you [or someone you know] need[s] someone to talk with, reach out to a parent, a friend, a school counselor, or an adult you trust, call a local helpline, or go to 13 Reasons Why-Help. Because the minute you start talking about it, it gets easier."

So onto the story and sharing what I thought of the book, then the show, and differences I did not like.

Trigger Warning is now in effect, proceed with care.

I enjoy reading books with hard subjects not from the pleasure of it, but the fact that I get to have a chance to understand that subject a little better. I get to delve into someone's world and see life through their eyes and see ultimately what went wrong, when it happened, and why they feel like it went wrong. So based on this way of thinking and getting the chance to read Thirteen Reasons why.

In the book, we follow Hannah Baker, the suicide victim, as she narrates her tragic story to her listeners/the people who she faults with her demise. Our protagonist and book narrator is Clay Jensen, who is revealed to be Reason #9 of why Hannah took her life. We see into Clay's mind as he is trying to make sense of why it all happened and ultimately blames himself for not seeing the "signs".

Uncommon opinion?:
You might disagree with me, but I don't blame Clay. He was a good boy and was afraid of being with someone from the get-go; add a girl with a promiscuous reputation (valid or not) and of course, this kid wouldn't have the courage to approach her romantically. I don't think it's fair that Hannah added him to the list. Sure, she knew he liked her and wanted him to break out of his shell to love her and give her that reason to see that life is worth staying alive. If you can recall, they did make-out at a party towards the end of the book, but Hannah stops Clay from continuing because she doesn’t think she deserves him.
Again, it's not fair, you can't blame someone for not loving you enough, especially when YOU push them away. Now, if they personally feel guilt, without influence from the person-of-question, then that's fine because it was not a guilt-trip. What I didn't like was that because she blamed him and added him to the list, he kind of blames himself too, which is sad and wrong.

Now let's jump to Book vs. Movie alterations/differences that bothered me:
I don't like when characters are changed or adjusted for any reason. While I understand that perhaps they wanted to keep the show relatable to the masses, with LGBTQ characters, I don't think it was a necessary change to the story. In fact, the show made their nonexistent (bookwise) sexual orientations more important than their role in the situation. In the book not sexual orientations of certain characters were ever mentioned, but in the movie, they adjusted the characters to represent LGBTQ members.
Let's take Courtney Crimson for example, in the book, the scene at Hannah's house. In the book, they did NOT kiss, there was no attraction, in fact. The girls ended up giving each other back massages to get the Peeping Tom excited, which Hannah was confused by.
In the movie, they have a heated moment and later on Courtney demonstrates a person who is lesbian but in denial, as to not taint her perfect image at school.

Another character that was changed to portray as an LGBTQ member was Tony. Nowhere in the book does Tony have a relationship with anyone or even reveals or hints at being gay. Yet, in the movie, it's consistently mentioned and shown.

What I want to know is why. Why add or change characters to represent someone that the author did not even intend to be added or changed. I am that book nerd that throws a fit when characters are changed to fit or fill social mainstream practices or agendas. It urks me, truly.

Another difference that doesn't make sense to me is the subject of rape concerning Hannah.
In the book, she does states, she was letting Bryce do what he wanted with her; which was foreplay not actually having sex. (Foreplay: erotic stimulation preceding sexual intercourse.) She knew what she was doing. She wanted to be destroyed morally before destroying herself physically. And destroy, Bryce did.
In the show, Hannah was not-right-in-the-head at the moment and was taken advantage of. In the show, I will define what happened as rape; she had sex with Bryce without her consent (which is by saying "YES", btw. Saying nothing is NOT consent.)

One more difference that bothered me what Tony's participation,
as mentioned earlier about the book, Tony didn't know what Hannah was doing with the tapes and recording system. He realized what she was doing when she sent him a copy of the tapes, he immediately called her parents to warn them and it was too late by then.
In the show, it is insinuated that Tony did know what was going on and tried to convince her to change her mind.


And that's where I shall stop. I could talk about this forever, but I'm lazy.
(Please correct me if I am wrong.)