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Hey.
I'm maybe not quite the best fit for this group, as I am an adult, don't really have much of a social life right now, so I don't currently get bullied at all.
However, I spent my whole childhood and young teen life a victim of intense bullying - by both the kids around me, as well as, in part, my own family. And I still suffer the consequences of that.
So it is a topic I do know a thing or two about, and who knows, maybe I can contribute, and even help, every now and then?
I'm maybe not quite the best fit for this group, as I am an adult, don't really have much of a social life right now, so I don't currently get bullied at all.
However, I spent my whole childhood and young teen life a victim of intense bullying - by both the kids around me, as well as, in part, my own family. And I still suffer the consequences of that.
So it is a topic I do know a thing or two about, and who knows, maybe I can contribute, and even help, every now and then?
My friend G ( I can't say her hole name ) and I are being bullied by are best friend Claire's boyfriend I don't know what to do places some one help, i went to the teacher for help but it made things worst then ever, but he make Claire happy i don't want to be a mean b**** to her about him so what can I do? I need some help
Have you, not in a mean way or anything but in a normal, nice way, talked to Claire about it? If not, you should.
First of all, friendships are usually stronger, more important than relationships, especially when you're rather young, which I assume you are.
Second of all, maybe she can just talk some sense into him, even without having to choose between you two and him. Often, these things resolve themselves through confrontation. Maybe he doesn't realize exactly what he's doing and even if he is, maybe just his girlfriend telling him she doesn't approve of how he's treating her friends can already make him think twice in the future.
Talking to Claire definitely should be the first step to take. Don't do it in a way that makes it seem like you want him gone and also don't do it in a way that puts the guilt on her. Just hang out with her a little and bring up her boyfriend and your problems with him and see what happens.
First of all, friendships are usually stronger, more important than relationships, especially when you're rather young, which I assume you are.
Second of all, maybe she can just talk some sense into him, even without having to choose between you two and him. Often, these things resolve themselves through confrontation. Maybe he doesn't realize exactly what he's doing and even if he is, maybe just his girlfriend telling him she doesn't approve of how he's treating her friends can already make him think twice in the future.
Talking to Claire definitely should be the first step to take. Don't do it in a way that makes it seem like you want him gone and also don't do it in a way that puts the guilt on her. Just hang out with her a little and bring up her boyfriend and your problems with him and see what happens.
I will try that thank you Pandsu your a big help
No problem at all. Keep us updated on how it went :3
I didn't end up talking to Claire my friends told me when they tried to talk to her about it she doesn't want hear it and she doesn't like tell him what to do, so what now?
Confront someone you actually trust to deal with the problem, other wise it's just going to get worse.
Well... I'd still try to talk to her, really. And else I'd evaluate your friendship to her, if she cares so little about your feelings. Or at least stop hanging out with her for a while and maybe that'll make her think about it a bit more.
I mean, you mentioned Claire is your best friend so her to just dismiss your feelings like that is... not very nice, to say the least.
I mean, you mentioned Claire is your best friend so her to just dismiss your feelings like that is... not very nice, to say the least.
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The most important thing, I think, is just that you make clear they know exactly how they feel and have a chance to feel sympathy, without them feeling too attacked themselves.
Don't make Claire feel like you're trying to take away her happiness, like you want her to break up with her boyfriend because you don't think she deserves one; or because you're jealous or whatever. Try not to turn this into a huge cat fight where each side misunderstands the other.
Do ignore him if you can, if it's merely some small teasing and whatnot. He might get bored and it is rarely helpful to make a huge deal out of small things but if it does hurt you and ignoring doesn't work then yes, I would suggest doing what has been said before, and talk about it. Like I said, not in too much of an attacking way, but in a way that makes it clear to them that you are hurt.
It's tough to balance it, neither attacking or overreacting, nor just taking and swallowing it all, but you can do it.
Don't make Claire feel like you're trying to take away her happiness, like you want her to break up with her boyfriend because you don't think she deserves one; or because you're jealous or whatever. Try not to turn this into a huge cat fight where each side misunderstands the other.
Do ignore him if you can, if it's merely some small teasing and whatnot. He might get bored and it is rarely helpful to make a huge deal out of small things but if it does hurt you and ignoring doesn't work then yes, I would suggest doing what has been said before, and talk about it. Like I said, not in too much of an attacking way, but in a way that makes it clear to them that you are hurt.
It's tough to balance it, neither attacking or overreacting, nor just taking and swallowing it all, but you can do it.
I tryed to talk to Claire but everyone told me not to, because I'm not the first and Claire is getting stick of it and she thinks it her fault. so what now?
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Thank you how are you getting bullied on here
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Sorry wait who group does she THINK we're copying
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