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My toxic friend story is a very recent development, so forgive my emotional rationality.

I had a best friend, Bronwyn, for almost 7 years. She went through a situation with the guy I'm now dating. Before you call, "girl code," understand the situation. They had a sexual interaction, he ACCIDENTALLY hurt her. When she asked to stop, they did. She never told him that he'd hurt her, just broke up with him and starting calling it "sexual assault."

Fast forward 6 years when him and I become friends. She gave me the ultimatum, him or her. I chose her even though it went against all of my values. I still talked to him through texting, but never around her.

There was this girl, Grace, who was absolutely horrible to me. I made it known that Bronwyn being friends with her made me uncomfortable. I didn't give her any ultimatums, just told her how uncomfortable it made me. She said she'd rather be friends with Grace then, which was entirely hypocritical, but I digress.

I texted her a couple days later, trying to end it on a good note. I can't leave things in a bad place, or it will bother me for months. She started talking all this shit, and me being the understanding person I am, let her rant. I still told her I loved her and that I'd be here for her. I mentioned the facts; she gave him consent. I said she had let him touch her, and it really was no one's fault.

She blew up, telling me that by that rationality, I "let" my mother abuse me for nine years. To me, that was a rude awakening. I couldn't believe she had said that. I cut off all communication with her after that.

It's been a little over a week, and I'm so much happier without my feelings being invalidated all of the time. It still hurts to see her, but Flynn is soooo supportive, and I'm so happy that I made the decision I did.

Toxic friends suck, but they do teach you valuable life lessons. :)

Really sad to hear such experiences. But I'm glad that Flynn supports you so much and that you are happy with you‘re decision.
My friend (she was my best friend, but she has a new one) called me fat. She said I had put on quite a bit. She was a little drunk that night.
When I was little I was pretty thin. Of course, the body develops when you get older, also because of puberty (of course I have gained a little weight over the past time, but I have a completely "normal" weight). It only made me have more problems with my looks and weight.
She was very sorry afterwards, only I remember it every time I see her. Lately we also talked about body positivity, I couldn't say anything, I felt paralyzed when she said all bodies are beautiful etc. I could only think of how she called me fat, and when we meet I try to hide my body because I am ashamed.

Once I made friends with this girl (I'll call her C) at a event thing for a bunch of young people because she looked lonely and I was trying to be nice. For a few years, like 2 or 3 maybe, C and I were friends. We hung out together and laughed and didn't care if maybe it was a bit strange. I thought we'd gotten maybe a bit close. I'm that kind of person who tries to see the good in people or be nice to people who might be lonely. But one time things just changed for no reason. C started acting like a know it all and would always find ways to "prove" me wrong. If I said something, she'd find a way that I wasn't necessarily "right" and would laugh, shaking her head and telling me I was wrong. She'd do this no matter who i was around and made me feel like a fool even though it was technically her being one. She made fun of how I'd like to be a mother someday and take care of my kids at home (Nothing wrong with this at all) and basically told me it was crazy. Also when she found out that I wanted to go to school to become a veterinary assistant or technician, she told me that "a lot of people kill themselves because they can't handle dying animals all the time." That honestly hurt a lot because it doesn't mean everyone does and I already know the job would be a stressful one. She didnt think I could do it but you know what, I'm graduating this June with a veterinary assistant certification. Because I did it.
The problem was, she didn't realize that her character was so rude and "throwing down" and stuff. She'd do it a lot. Because C didn't realize how much she would keep hurting me with her dumb little comments (what could I say without her retorting and saying something mean to me about it??), she'd always come around and hang around me and my other friends. I could only try to stay away but it wouldn't work all the time.
One time she showed up randomly at my house on my birthday. (Eyeroll)
The good thing right now is that I don't have to worry about her anymore right now because covid closed the border and is keeping her in Canada so I can um...have some peace.
But she's one of those girls who smiles and laughs and meanwhile secretly hurts you with her words. Anyway 😅

Oh MAN my posts are always books

I guess I need to be able to talk about this stuff lol

I just left my toxic friend group and now I have barely any friends ✌️

QueenofHearts wrote: "Once I made friends with this girl (I'll call her C) at a event thing for a bunch of young people because she looked lonely and I was trying to be nice. For a few years, like 2 or 3 maybe, C and I ..."

Congratulations!

One of my toxic friends recently joined my friend group. It was kinda uncomfortable, we got in a fight, but she’s not super in the group, so that’s better… 😔🥴

my ex best friend/ex girlfriend was always using me and she knew how much i liked her when we weren't together and still flaunted her abusive boyfriends in my face :/

I had a toxic friendship end a couple months ago and I can't go into too many details because I'm paranoid of the person seeing this post but the person now won't stop posting hate and lies about me so I've had to get a lawyer involved and it's so stressful. I'm constantly mad at myself because I didn't end the friendship sooner. I saw all this toxic stuff that they were doing but I ignored it because we were "friends"

Ava wrote: "I just left my toxic friend group and now I have barely any friends ✌️"

You did the right thing and I'm sure you will be able to find friends that treat you better soon <3

Oh lordy, trigger warning

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The situation with Bronwyn has escalated since my post. She has now promoted her accusations against Flynn for S.S into R. She's trying to mess with his life, all because she's mad at me for "choosing him." While all this is going on, we have screenshots of her admitting she consented. She's talking about getting a restraining order against me, due to a message I sent her yesterday, saying if she didn't stop trying to ruin Flynn's life, there was going to be a problem (I'm going to assume that's what the restraining order bs is about.). As of 5 minutes ago, I told an adult. This needs to stop, she can't do this shit. I am soooo frustrated. (hide spoiler)]