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Oct 18, 2022 07:53PM
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Here are my reasons for why not: Firstly it is a huge waste of money just to have a party. I mean have you seen the prices of wedding dresses some people spend thousands on that alone.
Secondly its kinda weird that to show how much you love someone you get there government involved. And it makes ending your relationship a lot more expensive and a much longer process.
And thirdly ans this is the main reason. Weddings are a sexist tradition from when women were seen are property and fathers would literally give away there daughters which is where the father walking his daughter down the isle and “ giving her away “ comes from. And the white dress is meant to symbolize virginity which is another dumb social construct.
Gracel wrote: "I'm not having my father walk me down the isle nor will he be "giving me away"."
Why?
Why?
Abby wrote: "Here are my reasons for why not:
Firstly it is a huge waste of money just to have a party. I mean have you seen the prices of wedding dresses some people spend thousands on that alone.
Secondly..."
OKay okay...let's see...
1. Some weddings are just to show off money. But some are very simple. My sister-In-Laws wedding was very small, low budget, but still so special. (I mean we made her veil out of some extra decoration stuff that we had...)
2. I can see your point here. Though I don't think people should be ending their relationships (unless it's very abusive or something) Let your yes be yes and your no be no, and when you make those vows your saying yes to being with that person forever
3. Weddings are not sexist. It's not showing women as property. Sure it used to mean women were the property of men. Fathers walking their daughter down the aisle and giving their daughter, the bride, away represented a transfer of ownership from her father to her new husband.” But the tradition of the father walking the bride down the aisle has evolved from what it was to it being a gesture of uniting families and showing love and respect for the new marriage. And it's not always the father. Some brides have both their parents or their entire immediate family walk them down the aisle. On some occasions, brides and grooms walk into the ceremony at the same time as all their guests and take their positions at the altar. This last one, usually is to symbolize them heading towards a future together.
Also the white dress is not a dumb social construct. For those who aren't Christians it may seem like that or it's just tradition. BUT for those who are Christians, it has meaning.
“Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be whiter than snow.” -Isaiah 1:18. The white wedding gown is not symbol of the bride's purity. (That would be showing that the Bride can be pure on her own...and she can't be.) It is an emblem of the work Jesus has done on the cross. His death and resurrection. His blood washing us pure and clean. It is a mark of the work the Holy Spirit continues to do, changing hearts, breathing life, making his people new
Firstly it is a huge waste of money just to have a party. I mean have you seen the prices of wedding dresses some people spend thousands on that alone.
Secondly..."
OKay okay...let's see...
1. Some weddings are just to show off money. But some are very simple. My sister-In-Laws wedding was very small, low budget, but still so special. (I mean we made her veil out of some extra decoration stuff that we had...)
2. I can see your point here. Though I don't think people should be ending their relationships (unless it's very abusive or something) Let your yes be yes and your no be no, and when you make those vows your saying yes to being with that person forever
3. Weddings are not sexist. It's not showing women as property. Sure it used to mean women were the property of men. Fathers walking their daughter down the aisle and giving their daughter, the bride, away represented a transfer of ownership from her father to her new husband.” But the tradition of the father walking the bride down the aisle has evolved from what it was to it being a gesture of uniting families and showing love and respect for the new marriage. And it's not always the father. Some brides have both their parents or their entire immediate family walk them down the aisle. On some occasions, brides and grooms walk into the ceremony at the same time as all their guests and take their positions at the altar. This last one, usually is to symbolize them heading towards a future together.
Also the white dress is not a dumb social construct. For those who aren't Christians it may seem like that or it's just tradition. BUT for those who are Christians, it has meaning.
“Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be whiter than snow.” -Isaiah 1:18. The white wedding gown is not symbol of the bride's purity. (That would be showing that the Bride can be pure on her own...and she can't be.) It is an emblem of the work Jesus has done on the cross. His death and resurrection. His blood washing us pure and clean. It is a mark of the work the Holy Spirit continues to do, changing hearts, breathing life, making his people new
Gracel wrote: "Kara wrote: " Gracel wrote: "I'm not having my father walk me down the isle nor will he be "giving me away"."
Why?"
Because my father and I don't have a relationship and we probably never will. a..."
Well that makes a little more sense
Why?"
Because my father and I don't have a relationship and we probably never will. a..."
Well that makes a little more sense
@Abby nearly every point you gave only applies to Western/Christian weddings. They don't apply to all marriages.
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Firstly it is a huge waste of money just to have a party. I mean have you seen the prices of wedding dresses some people spend thousands on that alone.
Secondly..."
About the last one- That was in the past but things have changed now. Men are not trying to own women. Weddings stand for love and unity as a couple. The whole point to become one in the relationship, become family. It is only right to have a big party to celebrate that they are happy.
Me personally, I wouldn’t mind not getting married. I don’t like that it’s normalized so much that it’s most definitely expected when you’re in a relationship.I understand that a marriage might be a way for someone to say “You are the one” and “I want to live with you for the rest of my life”
I get that but, I don’t need a whole party for our relationship to be official or whatever.
But, why should you get married?
Some marriages might make you feel more secure about where the other person is. You both are on the same page that you both wanna be together, forever. Aren’t you supposed to have kids after you get married? Maybe it’s part of you or your partners beliefs. I don’t know.
