Debates discussion

Why should you not just have sex with the next person you see? Is Virginity outdated?

Well firstly virginity isn’t even a real thing it was made up by men who think that their penises are so important that they change a woman. And if it is consensual then you can have sex with however you want.

You seem to think a lot of real world things are made up. Have you heard of popping the cherry?

It’s really none of your business but yes.

You are right, I was just curious on your perspective is all. You do know that a woman's body physically changes after her first time right?

There aren’t really any significant changes.

But like your body doesn't go back to the way it was before. It is noticeable. Like we are talking about something real and physical here.

The female body “changes” so that the next time is less painful.

And what might those changes be called?

What changes do you think happen.

the answer to my previous question is called "Loosing your viginity, or popping your cherry."

We can move on and talk about cultural impacts when we all agree that it is a real physical thing. We may disagree with the impact it on said woman. But it really does happen.

Are you talking about the hymen breaking? Because that can happen without having sex or even doing anything sexual.

But there is a before and after state. There is a change being had. This is something Physical.

But the changes aren’t significant.

But you admit that there is a Physical change. We can debate on how significant. But there is one.

Ok sure there is a ( slight) physical change in both male and female bodies.

Change to the Male body? I have not heard of this.

There are hormonal changes. That happen to both male and female bodies and are the cause for most of the other changes to the female body.

Oh ok, I suppose that makes sense,

So just to be clear Abby, you are anti-marriage, Anti-virginity and ant-baby? To you Fornication means nothing other than pleasure? We should not worry about having stable permanent relationships. As that is sexist.

Yes I think marriage is an Unnecessary outdated sexist tradition. I don’t know what anti- virginity means but it’s a blatantly sexist social construct. And I’m am pro choice meaning I think people should have the choice wether or not to have children I would never once said to someone who wants children don’t have children( unless of course their abusive or are predators and should not be allowed to be near children). Biologically sex is for reproduction be as humans it is not the only reason to do it. And I think having stable relationships is very important.

This was an interesting video on the porn industry
https://youtu.be/BkljlgKzuBo

I think virginity isn't a sexist idea. Saying it was created by men who think their important isn't a valid point, because there are also women who think the same thing about their Vaginias. I think you should wait till marriage because, yes, sex does change you. Physically and mentally. It changes your hormones and the way you think.

Maddie J wrote: "I think virginity isn't a sexist idea. Saying it was created by men who think their important isn't a valid point, because there are also women who think the same thing about their Vaginias. I thin..."

I agree with this

As well as, when you go around having sex whenever with whoever, that can change you mentally. A lot of people, it may feel good at the moment, but they eventually will feel guilty about it. Or shame. Not to mention, sexually transmitted diseases that get passed on.
Sex is like two pieces of paper glued together.
When you pull them apart, theres a little bit of the blue paper on the orange paper. If orange gets glued to green ans they get pulled apart, theres now a bit of orange on green and now theres green AND blue on orange. It doesnt go back to just green and orange or blue and orange.



And from a Christian standpoint, God told us to save purselves for marriage. To stay pure until we are married.

Yeah the chemical balance is a good point. Men and women are different. When women have sex there are hormones that get released that will start to tie them mentally to the man they had sex with.

While that is not the case with men. There is a real valid argument that sleeping around only benefits short term pleasure seeking men.

Just a few things I thought I might add.

@Kara
I love that paper and glue analogy! It makes so much sense!

Maddie J wrote: "@Kara
I love that paper and glue analogy! It makes so much sense!"

Thank you! :)
Learned it from my mother!

Kara wrote: "Maddie J wrote: "@Kara
I love that paper and glue analogy! It makes so much sense!"

Thank you! :)
Learned it from my mother!"

yes it is quite a great analogy.