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Okay, guys, which idiot thought of the saying, "sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me", like, no offense to anyone over here, but i just want to know what the hell came over them to think of such an idiotic saying like this.
Once again, not saying this to offend anyone😭

I totally agree with you words can hurt.. are you okay my dms are open

…wb a dictionary?

Oh nah ... sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will break my confidence, my heart ......and my bloody brain, at times !!

I think whoever made that was def NOT a teenage girl. Let me guess it was a teenage boy. 🙄 They aren’t exactly the brightest.

frrr guys

Katniss wrote: "I think whoever made that was def NOT a teenage girl. Let me guess it was a teenage boy. 🙄 They aren’t exactly the brightest."

I was in WORLD HISTORY once, and the guy that sat next to me asked me if Cincinnati was a country. A whole COUNTRY. not a citi, not even a state. they're not Einstein to say the least

My primary school teacher used to say it to me. 10 yo mes response was "where have u been?" To this day I still don't know of a place where it's true.

I Can say from personal experience that words can hurt you.

But I think that that saying means: words can only hurt you if you let them.

I’m not saying that words won’t hurt, I’m just expressing my interpretation of that saying.

I’m also not saying it’s true.

i totally disagree with that saying - like words can hurt MORE than actions sometimes. ever heard of verbal abuse??

sadie⋆.ೃ࿔.༄ wrote: "i totally disagree with that saying - like words can hurt MORE than actions sometimes. ever heard of verbal abuse??"

oh my goddd yes, my mom does that all the time. I never thought anyone else would think it was a thing!!

Actually what Rowan said is probably true, BUT I feel like when it’s used that is not quite how it comes off. Especially not when it’s being said to a bunch of teenage girl.

Skyler ♡ wrote: "sadie⋆.ೃ࿔.༄ wrote: "i totally disagree with that saying - like words can hurt MORE than actions sometimes. ever heard of verbal abuse??"

oh my goddd yes, my mom does that all the time. I never tho..."

yea my mom does it all the time too

Yeah like sometimes things people say put me in tears bc they are meant to hurt and if they didn’t hurt we would all be robots

Yea like words are meant to hurt sometimes its sad but like when someone says “oh its just a phase” or “oh r u on ur period” or “dont be so sensitive” or even “no we dont side with your siblings all the time u shouldn’t be so spoiled” like words hurt 😔 and whoever said they dont prob was rich and had no problems and no one ever said anything mean to them. Or it was an old timer high school musical moment where they were like “oh sicks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me rEbeCCa!” lol 😂

It's meant as a philosophical statement, a state of mind, of being.

The concept is that if someone says something to intentionally hurt you, then they are not a person who you should care what they have to say.

That is to say, if someone you care about hurts you with their words, you need to tell them and explain why and if they choose to continue to hurt you.

Then you need to tell them where to go and how to get there, because they don't deserve to have you in their life.

You should never let how you value yourself be based on someone else's opinion.

Once you make that obvious revelation, that you deserve to be treated kindly and then are willing to stand up for yourself and how you as a person deserves to be treated.

Then the statement becomes a self fulling prophecy.

(As long as you treat other people the same as how you want to be treated that is.)

don't mind me imma rant on abt stuff

I see everyone putting stuff abt how words hurt more than actions. honestly, this is so true. when I was little, my mom used to always call me "lazy" and "useless". she used to always come at me like she would hit me but stops right in my face and call me all these names. and then like a week later she would say "why are you always so damn negative?" and I'm over here just minding my own business. I would look at her and say "well I wouldn't be if I didn't have someone who makes me think all of these negative things" and then she would get mad, and yell at me bc I apparently gave her a smartass attitude??? well mb if that's the way you make me feel.

and this is completely out of subject but do you think the people that commit suicide ever got hit? probably. but what's the number one reason that they kill themselves? bc they got told that they aren't good enough for this world. and those words could cost someones life.

so yeah... words have more of an affect than actions do.
(sry if I rambled alot)

words hurt me way more than actions do

Rylie ♡ wrote: "don't mind me imma rant on abt stuff

I see everyone putting stuff abt how words hurt more than actions. honestly, this is so true. when I was little, my mom used to always call me "lazy" and "usel..."

I am going to do something i am not supposed to do. I really hope i dont offend you in doing so.

when I was little, my mom used to always call me "lazy" and "useless". she used to always come at me like she would hit me but stops right in my face and call me all these names.

How old was your mom?
How well do you think she was able to cope with the world around her based on how she grew up and was raised?

People get angry for a lot of reasons and kids can be stressful if your not well equipped emotionally to handle them.

Firstly you were never lazy or useless you were a kid. Even your mother knew that then, because your a fking kid and its obvious.

Ask yourself what was likely happening?

My guess is she got upset and and lashed out when in reality the issue was her immaturity and lack of coping skills. It had literally nothing to do with you at all.


The next point really illustrates that for me.

why are you always so damn negative?" and I'm over here just minding my own business. I would look at her and say "well I wouldn't be if I didn't have someone who makes me think all of these negative things" and then she would get mad, and yell at me bc I apparently gave her a smartass attitude???


You know what immature people do without coping skills do when they are confronted with their own fuck ups?

They explode, because any other action means acknowledging that it was their fault and when its your kid even if your a terrible parent almost all of them still love their kids and want the best for them.

In some sense you were asking her to admit that her behavior was the reason you acted that way. It made her upset because it was the truth and that hurts when its someone your supposed to care for and protect form the world.

My mother loved me and she did the best she could in the 4.5 years i lived with her to take care of me.

She sacrificed a lot to make sure i had good food and that i always had new clothes for school so i wouldn't get teased like she did.

Still she was an absolutely horrible mother, she beat the living crap out of me more times than i can count. The level of mental and physical abuse she gave me, i can honestly say i cried until i didn't have anymore tears left to cry.

In the end she threw a chef's knife at me when i was 12 and i climbed a cherry tree and refused to come down until my grandparents came to pick me up several hours drive away.

I never blamed her what she did, she was mentally ill with schizophrenia and suffered significant abuse while she was in the army.

She apologized to me many times since then, especially when she found out most of the things she was beating me for were actually my sisters doing, she was just much better at playing innocent than i was.

I accepted her apology, but I also never forgave her, because what she did to defenseless child is simply unforgivable.

I can't say why for certain your mom choose to act the way she did. I can't even tell you if your mom loves you or not.

What i can tell you is saying that a child is lazy or useless is a tautology for every child. It's a completely useless statement to make, its your literal purpose as a child to learn how to become a person and saying it to your kid is nothing more than bad parenting.

The last thing i will say is not everyone is perfect, everyone has flaws.

The important thing is to not judge yourself by the flaws of others. You cannot assign weight to such things or you will end up trying to carry around the whole worlds flaws for them.

That is not your responsibility, in fact i would argue it's your responsibility to acknowledge that they were their flaws not your own.

I want to be clear you can't run around blaming other people for everything that happens in your life, but you are responsible for but one thing and one thing only.

Your actions and if the circumstances preclude fault then so to must you acknowledge them.

You deserve at least that much.

Whether you want to or not you owe yourself that much, because its the minimum decency that every person deserves.

I am not saying that words don't hurt.
I am saying often the reason people are saying them is invalid, so you cannot hold yourself accountable to them.

Do you understand?

Whoa how long did it take you to write that?

Also I block out negative comments all day long so when someone says something like “oh your just hormonal ur probably on your cycle” yeah it’s gonna hurt and I’m gonna feel sad like everyone says literally “it’s fine sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” but like come on WORDS FREAKIN HURT especially bc everyone has to deal with some sort of bs every single day that eventually you can’t hel but be hurt. But I understand where you are coming from

I dunno 15 minutes?

if anyone says your just hormonal or on your cycle.

full fucking stop.

The only possible answer is "Woah. That is offencive and wildly inappropriate. In the future,
could you please choose a less offencive way to communicate with me?

The goal is not to be confrontational or to be mean. It's to set proper boundaries and that is a level of respect that everyone deserves to have.

I understand that hormones, plus pain can make the fairer sex a bit crazy at times, but the idea of blaming someone's behavior on chemical reactions in their body that are well beyond their control is beyond asinine.

Moreover, you cant let people say things like that or they will start believing that its normal or somehow appropriate to speak that way to others and eventually you end up with America thinking its okay to elect fking trump.

It is very difficult to fire people in canada we have very strong workers rights that require just cause for any termination, but someone saying this in a work environment would be more than sufficient for their employer to terminate them with just cause.

What i am trying to say is people need to speak up when they are offended. Not to create a confrontation, but because YOU DO NOT DESERVE TO HAVE TO GO HOME AND RATIONALIZE IT TO YOURSELF SO THAT THE WORDS DO NOT HURT.

The other person shouldn't be fking saying them. Unfortunately, people, though men especially are really fucking stupid and often need really obvious things explained to them.

The key point is what happens afterwards. if they continue you tell them to get the fuck out of your life. Cause that is harrassment or abuse, you don't need that in your life.

The thing is most people don't realize they are being that offencive until they are told.

Once you tell them though they cant play at lack of understanding and they are intentionally trying to hurt you. You don't want people like that in your life.

This is because no one deserves to be treated that way!

Cortlan wrote: "Katniss wrote: "I think whoever made that was def NOT a teenage girl. Let me guess it was a teenage boy. 🙄 They aren’t exactly the brightest."

I was in WORLD HISTORY once, and the guy that sat nex..."

Helppp that reminds me of when this guy went around saying “ENGLAND AMD SCOTLAND ARENT COUNTRIES THEYRE PROVINCES OF THE UK” 😭

and he truly believed it…

Ophelia ˚࿔ wrote: "Cortlan wrote: "Katniss wrote: "I think whoever made that was def NOT a teenage girl. Let me guess it was a teenage boy. 🙄 They aren’t exactly the brightest."

I was in WORLD HISTORY once, and the ..."

it's not the stupidest thing i have heard... today and a far cry from the stupidest thing i believed as a teenage boy lol

Actually to be fair i not entirely sure Scotland is a country now... i realize they are governed independently, which by my definition would make them a country, but i don't think the UN recognizes them as their own country, but as a state within the UK. Maybe its a country, but not a nation?

That sounds even weirder.