Everything Everything All At Once discussion

Mine would be:

1. Has a boy mom
2. Always talks about his ex like ‘oh she’s so crazy’ and all that
3. Never remembers important dates like birthdays, anniversaries, interviews, sports events
4. Always has to be doing his thing and never what you want
5. Never helps around the house/apartment
6. Doesn’t like kids/doesnt want them
7. Has been in more than 3 serious relationships

Ermmm..... being a mommys boy, acting like a child, comparing me to his ex bcs no no no, workaholic, oh introducing me as a 'friend', not being able to talk abt things, i say these are red flags but then i proceed to ignore them but whatever i suppose🥺🥲

I've only had one crush that was a guy in the past like 4 years so I have no idea. But I've had a girlfriend and a few other girl crushes so I'll answer to that 😭

1. Doesn't enjoy deep conversations and emotional stuff and isn't a good listener
2. Doesn't match my energy
3. Doesn't respond to texts quickly and doesn't show enthusiasm in stuff I enjoy
4. Is heterophobic/transphobic because I have met lesbian girls like that 😭

That's all I can think of rn

This is random but dont you guys hate when girls have like really stupid red flags like dont get me wrong red flags are important to look for but not when they are like:

1. Eats noodles
2. Has a fish for a pet
3. Reads books
4. Isn’t a millionaire
5. Has siblings
6. Breathes air
7. Is alive
8. Is older than 2

Like come on those are not red flags those are just wrong af

lmaoooo real

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Every romantasy is full of red flags! I've been married 28 years, so hopefully I am qualified:

1. Does not respect you
2. Can't control his temper
3. Physically hurts you
4. Insults, belittles, or threatens you
5. Does not respect his mom and sisters
6. Gets jealous easily
7. Lazy
8. Secretive/Dishonest

also never been in a relationship just my opinion.
manipulative.
lazyyyyy.
avoids deep convos.
doesn’t validate others feelings.
biggg ego!!(i used to have a crush on this guy and i swear his ego was so biggg it bothered be after a while)
mommy’s boy.
low effort but high maintenance.
jealous but flirty.
takes and never gives.
never makes time to hangout.
talks crap.
rude.
wont go to church with me.
gets mad over stupid crap.
still in love with ex.
that’s a lot but yeaaa

Coming from an aromantic date for fun (yes I know horrible) person:
1. Doesn’t understand personal space. I can only enjoy being together if I know what it’s like to be alone, if that makes sense. I don’t mind clingy, I do mind needy.
2. Illogical or only thinks with emotions. I’d like to think I’m a logical person and I will always be there for people, however I need someone I can logically talk to without it sounding offensive.
3. I like soulmates as a book trope. I don’t know if I’m getting married. I dislike when we’re dating for three days and they’re planning our wedding I’m sorry it’s uncomfortable.
I think that’s really it. I’m a flirty person and i like to have fun and stuff, if I feel trapped in a relationship I will end it lol.

(Can we have a green flags one or things we like in guys/girls one?)

Yea sure I will make it now!

mine are

lazy

abusive

always cheating on girls

doesn't really like u

hates pets

never ever happy

has a very very bad temper

never texts back

hates kids

always avoiding hanging out

asks u to pay for stuff he wants

always on his phone

doesn't have a good job at all

or doesn't have a job and relies on ur money

has more than one girlfriend

doesn't go to church

hates Charlie Kirk

and I think that's all for now.

SecondMist # SAJA BOYS!!#❤️ wrote: "mine are

lazy

abusive

always cheating on girls

doesn't really like u

hates pets

never ever happy

has a very very bad temper

never texts back

hates kids

always avoiding hanging out

as..."

dang well i dont think theres any men left to ur standereds now! LOL jk

If you see some of the red flags people have in guys nowadays. Well they r like eats noodles, talks to his mom, breathes air, is alive, lives on earth, is vegan, vegetarian, or an omnivore. So basically all girls want to be single

SecondMist # SAJA BOYS!!#❤️ wrote: "mine are

lazy

abusive

always cheating on girls

doesn't really like u

hates pets

never ever happy

has a very very bad temper

never texts back

hates kids

always avoiding hanging out

as..."

Hates Charlie Kirk!??!

Rita wrote: "If you see some of the red flags people have in guys nowadays. Well they r like eats noodles, talks to his mom, breathes air, is alive, lives on earth, is vegan, vegetarian, or an omnivore. So basi..."

oop guilty- kidding im js gay lmao

over controlling.
intense constant jealousy
disrespect and putting others down.
tries to isolate you from others.
gaslighting
lack of support
blaming you for their problems

More lgtbq based:
rushing things
invalidating identity.
refusing to use your pronouns/name
fetishizing your identity
pressuring you to be a certain way.
forcing you to come out and or hide your identity to make themselves feel more comfortable

religious based:
disrespecting faith
cultural sterotyping
showing disdain for your family or community
making you choose parts of your identity

1:Always talks about his ex
2: Doesn’t like kids/doesnt want them
3:over controlling.
4: jealousy
5:gaslighting
6:always avoiding hanging out
7:biggg ego
8:comparing me to his ex

When he exists tbh its such a red flag imo

SecondMist # SAJA BOYS!!#❤️ wrote: "mine are

lazy

abusive

always cheating on girls

doesn't really like u

hates pets

never ever happy

has a very very bad temper

never texts back

hates kids

always avoiding hanging out

as..."




HATES CHARLIE KIRK? Omg I’m not trying to start stuff but how is that a red flag?! That’s a green flag for me! Charlie Kirk was horrid

cheats, lies, abu$1v3, agr355iv3

Yeah I don’t know if that’s a red flag that he hates Charlie Kirk. Not trying to get political here but he’s wasn’t a good person lots of people thought so and even though violence is never the answer and that gun sh*t absolutely was not (im not denying it was wrong) he shouldn’t be wanting women to get raped and then not be able to get aborted. And also if his wife like right after he died get a new guy. Well then it proves his life with her was not a happy one for her.

Well, there are a lot of lies about him (and everyone), so get to the truth before judging.

Hmm ok I have a lot😅:
Doesn't like to talk about deep, important, or controversial topics
Doesn't like physical touch
Doesn't have good hygene (I don't mean a 10 step skin care routine, but please shower and brush your teeth!)
Isn't polite to people, especially cashiers, waiters, etc.
Isn't honest about things, even little things.
Has had a lot of serious gf's in the past
Calls all his ex's "crazy"
Doesn't like kids
Doesn't like animals
Can't accept criticism
Won't apologize when he's wrong
This one's weird, but someone who won't call me out when I'm wrong. Like I mess up too and if I need to apologize to you please let me know.
Someone who hates all pop music simply cause it's pop music
Kills bugs instead of releasing them outside😅
Pushes his religion on other people
Constantly interrupts people when they're talking cause he doesn't really care what they have to say
Rarely wants to hang out
Doesn't reply to texts
Thinks plushies are childishn

That's all the ones I'm thinking of right now. Other than like the REALLY bad things like cheating, manipulation, mental or physical abuse, etc. These things are just my personal preference. Also I'm in a relationship rn and the only one of these my boyfriend has a bit is the pop music one😆 so I guess I don't mind it tooo much lol

Also I just wanted to say, hating Charlie Kirk is ok, I get that, what's a huge red flag to me is if you're celebrating his death

Yeah like im sad a HUMAN had to die but never catch me agreeing with him. I’m just sad someone got killed bc of MORE gun violence

Refuses to delete his other girlfriends. Lies and continues to cheat. Too chicken to acknowledge or deny the truth. Ghosts you.

Also, is a total moron. Can't deal with that.

(Judging that i'm a teen that has never had a boyfriend, I wouldn't trust my own advice).

Doesn't like dogs (I don't mean just not liking, I mean like they ignore them, you've never seen them pet a dog, they don't have a dog even though they very well-ly could. etc)

Dresses trashy (All guys should dress decent in public, if he wears sweat pants or low rise baggy ripped jeens to work, then I would steer clear of them).

Jokes about you' being ugly. (Sadly, this is really commen, and any guy that thinks it's funny to even slightly joke that you're ugly or overweight isn't a good person to be with, a relationship should be supportive and loving, and should never bring eachother down).

Isn't religous. (This is more personal for me, but for anyone who's dating someone that doesn't agree with thier beliefs will effect a relationship badly)

@natalie well said about the beliefs but when i look for beliefs i mean political and environmental, religious i dont care about like just bc i marry someone from another religion doesn’t mean I can’t go to church, read my bible, and pray. It just means we have a healthy relationship enough to the point where we can believe in completely different religions but still be in love or at least dating/together!

Yeah, my great-grandparents fought over church all the time, I was told.

when he says he loves me after like less than a week, when he asks for pics, amd asks me what im wearing

Also something i just thought of is my man has to be able to have platonic relationships with women/men besides his mother and aunts.
And he needs to have a relationship with god, like not just go to church like pray to him, read a bible, and spread his great word to others.
Finally he needs to have a plan for his life, like he cant just be a gamer he needs to exercise, work, and do chores to prove he is husband material so even if we dont work out the next girl will have a good relationship with him yk?