The Valentineless Reader discussion

Cuties feel free to ask for advice on boys here!

Here’s my issue:

Last July a guy friend of mine did the thing only one other guy has done.
He called my dad in order to get my phone number. (Note he first prank texted me and then I told him if he wasn’t to continue to text me he had to do that)
We continued to text few months and my crush on him grew.
A few months after our first text conversation one of my friends added me to a group chat which included him and one of his friends. (A past crush of mine) well weeks into the group chat. The other boy began to be a jerk and eventually that lead to both of them bullying me. Last November I ended our friendship when the bullying got out of hand. Me and my crush had a big fight and didn’t speak to each other for weeks, I hated him. Months after the fight I told my mom (and to my horror) they made me talk to him. After weeks of stressing over talking to this boy I still liked (ik maybe a bad idea) I finally pulled him aside after church.
The conversation went well. I apologized for maybe pressuring him or making him feel uncomfortable and he apologized for saying the things he had. Now almost a year after our fight we’re friends and get along well.
The sad fact is that as I attend not one but two homeschool co-ops with him and the feelings have returned. Even more sad is that as I have realized these feelings I have also realized that off all the boys in my small town, he is one of the few who have similar virtues as my family and (though his friends bring about a less kind side of him) he is an amazing person and so so sweet! His parents have raised him well.
Just two days ago I told my friend my intention to ask him to our dance that we’re having in December. Her response was not at all what I expected. She swore that this was a bad idea. Not just because she remembered our situation a year ago but because, apparently, (I was completely unaware of this) he is talking to another girl.
I now suffer from heartbreak (again) because of this boy.
Do you guys have any advice?

Hey thanks but I forgot to update that yesterday 🤦🏻‍♀️ he announced that him and the other girl are dating

It’s alright I guess this is just Jesus giving me a sign.

Yup that’s the plan. Actually a few weeks ago I noticed another kid in my class so I’ll try to make friends with him for now

Oh wow… that sounds rough, I totally get why you’re heartbroken. 💔 Honestly, it’s okay to feel upset—what you went through with him wasn’t easy, and your feelings are completely valid.

It really sucks to find out he’s talking to someone else, especially after everything you two went through. But maybe for now, just focus on the fact that you rebuilt your friendship and that you know the kind of person he is. That’s something really special, even if it’s not romantic right now.

If you still want to ask him to the dance, you could—but only if you’re ready for any answer. And it’s also 100% okay to step back and protect your heart if it’s too much. Surround yourself with friends who get you and just let yourself feel your feelings—it’s totally normal. 💛

Heartbreak sucks, but it also helps you figure out what you really want in someone. You’re doing fine, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.

Yup I think it’s going to be good for me to move on and it’s not the worst I’ve been through so I’ll be fine

That’s such a healthy way to think about it! 💛 You’ve been through tough stuff before, so you’ve totally got this. Just take your time, focus on yourself, and let things fall into place. You’ll be surprised at how strong you are!