Dare to Dream discussion

One of my favorite musical artists is Brandon Flowers (see the thread in the Music folder). In Flowers' song "Crossfire" a phrase has stood out to me since I first heard it:
"Our Dreams Will Break the Boundaries of Our Fears"

Fear is a very real emotion and one that can be used as a tool in film and novels. Some amount of fear can be a good thing to keep us from doing stupid things, but can also hold us back from achieving our goals.

Here is a thread where we can discuss fears and perhaps share stories of overcoming or facing them.

What is shared in this thread might be humorous, serious or both, so everyone just try to be understanding even if suzy seems to have an irrational fear of teddy bears.

I know I am still afraid of dark basements. As a child, I had to turn off that last light at the bottom of the stairs and the darkness was behind me and I would run as fast as I could up those stairs.

I do believe that "Our Dreams Will Break the Boundaries of our Fears."

I have these terrifying zombie nightmares. My subconscious uses the idea or 'object' of zombies to symbolize every little thing that is bothering me in day to day life. You know those little things that you dread. So, in these dreams, I get chased around and around, or end up dragged down by hands. And no matter what time I wake up, whether 4 hours or 30 minutes before my alarm goes off, I can't-no, refuse to go back to sleep. I even have to turn a light on afterwards.
I'm also terrified of being in the same place, situation that I'm in now, for the rest of my life. I live at home with my parents. I have a crap job that I hate. It is down right depressing living here, and working where I do. I keep telling myself that I shouldn't complain, that some people can't even get a job, and my parents don't charge me rent. But still....
life shouldn't be this depressing.

At least you're going to school. I'm more than a little scared of that too. I'm a very scared person... One step at a time. Keep your eyes on the prize...

I keep a little book full of little up lifting quotes, and jokes to get me going sometimes. It helps me to get off my butt sometimes. Just give the job thing time, it took a couple months to get call backs. Good Luck.

I know what you mean on the anxiety thing, and it doesn't help that I'm lazy and procrastinate like its cool either. Once I let myself slip into a rut, its almost impossible to get myself going again.

Al wrote: "Thanks. I have really bad anxiety so going to school was very hard for me, but my mom dragged me to sign up for some classes and I've been pressured into keep on going for two years now."

I have anxiety too - it was especially bad working at the theater because the manager scared me and I didn't know from day to day how he would be. Some days he pretended to be really nice and stop to talk to employees in the hallways and we would pretend that everything was happy. Most days he was a tyrant and would not even look at us little employees in the hallway if something needed to be done, he wouldn't communicate with us but only through his assistant managers. And when I tried to have a meeting with him, he was unable to keep his voice calm, every time I would talk he would respond by making his voice louder. My anxiety got really bad about going to work because I had to prepare myself for this and it wasn't so bad if I was working there consistently but sometimes I would only be scheduled one or two shifts per week. And sometimes, I would only be scheduled for a 3 or 4 hour shift in the evening which would ruin my whole day because I had to think about it all day. This is why I quit the movie theater. It wasn't worth the free movies. The theater manager doesn't even watch any movies!?!? On one of the rare attempts to make conversation with him. I asked have you seen Drive yet? I've seen it nine times! He said he hadn't seen it and he hadn't seen any of the current movies. I don't know why he is managing a theater if he doesn't even watch the movies, but of course he doesn't typically talk to any customers like we little employees did so I guess it doesn't matter. They started me out paying me $7.75 and hour and free movies and a free popcorn and drink on my break and eventually they gave started giving us 50% off concessions on our break. Employees were required to bring in their own containers for the popcorn and drink. Employees can not use the courtesy Dixie cups for employee drinks,even though they are given out to customers like crazy for water cups. Earlier this year, I got a 19 cent raise four months late. Yippee!
I feel much better now that I decided to quit.

Does this thread remind you of a Dean Koontz book? One in particular pops into mind:



Today's goal: Step outside the house.

This thread brought to mind an old episode of the Avengers (Steed and Mrs. Peel). Don't know if you recall it. The program was produced with a very surrealistic feel. There was one where the villain would find out some government person's phobia (heights, spiders, open spaces, etc.) and drive them insane by exposing them to it.

Since then I never tell anyone my fears. It doesn't seem prudent...

Mike (the Paladin) wrote: "Since then I never tell anyone my fears. It doesn't seem prudent... "

Because the government will get you. It's no surprise that you are a Dean Koontz fan :-) I'm not familiar with that show.

Goes way back. The best known period is out of the '60s and into the'70s stared Patrick Macnee and Diana Rigg. One of the first English shows to hit big over here. It started back before that period as a black and white show.

That's way before my time.

They still show up in reruns and so on...there was a pathetic movie a few years ago. Mercifully it's been mostly forgotten.

Many of us Nerds still find it and the DVDS are out there...I had some of it on VHS years ago.

Maybe what I fear is a lot of current TV?????

I think there is some good current TV but most of it I wouldn't waste my time with. Last year's American Horror Story was quite good - I might need to start a thread on that in the Movies & TV Folder.

There are only a few I catch regularly. Two of those are action, Justified and Person of Interest. I also watch Big Bang Theory...

Big Bang Theory is a nice little show - I've watched several episodes. Did you watch the new Muppet movie where Jim Parsons did a cameo? He was also in last years movie The Big Year about bird watching.

No...I'll probably see it later. Don't go to theater much. Well we have a "cheap theater" here that gets films after the first run ones...I don't go to first run movies much. I plan to make an exception for The Avengers if I can though. LOL

You could get tired after a few days...

Does thinking of "pleasant things" help?

Maybe reading something other than horror?

Have you tried reading H.P. Lovecraft?

It was sort of a joke... Lovecraft is classic horror, who started a sort "school of horror". He was contemporary with Robert E. Howard and other pulp writers.

Mike (the Paladin) wrote: "Have you tried reading H.P. Lovecraft?"

I thought we were trying to help Al with getting rid of her nightmares - not create more :-)

Al, I would recommend that you do not watch films such as Nightmare on Elm Street right before bed.

Well, if you have any nightmares be sure to post them in the dram interpretation thread and maybe we can help you.

I figured if pleasant thoughts didn't work I'd go the other way....

Maybe a snack would help?????

If you listen to peaceful music as you go to sleep - that may help.

I listen to audio books as I try to fall asleep...maybe that's why I stay awake almost all night?

See if you can find something boring???

I have a fear of this music video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3mbBbF...

I will listen to that music in the daylight. I am too scared to listen to it right now in the dark. I have to go to sleep very soon.

Al wrote: "I want to click on it, but I'm afraid to...."

It's "Black Hole Sun" by Soundgarden. I love the song, but the video makes me go O_o.

That music video is Awesome! It really made my day and made me laugh so much. That is my kind of video :-) Thank you so much for sharing. I posted it on my Facebook and we'll see if I get any response.

Fear
One Republic:
http://youtu.be/7sgczZp9W4s

I hate being touched by other peoples feet, my wife used to wear socks in bed, I've since gotten over her feet, and love every part of her and my children, but every one else is feet off.

I don't have any problem with bare feet. I sure as heck ain't gonna wear socks all the time and I like to show off my ankle tattoos :-)

I fear I well never be in love and never well be loved. I fear time, cus it escapes my grasp so fast. I fear that I'll cause my own death. I fear the dark hole well shallow me whole. I fear that once I leave this place I'll never be able to come back. I fear that I well lose everyone I love to follow my dreams. I fear my dreams well never be realized. I fear that I'll lose my mind. I fear that my mom well die someday. I fear that God hates me. I fear that I well never get to live a moment to the full. I fear that everything I want is so close, yet so far away...But what I still fear the most is that I may never fall in love or have a first kiss. I fear that no well ever want me...

Jamie wrote: "I fear I well never be in love and never well be loved. I fear time, cus it escapes my grasp so fast. I fear that I'll cause my own death. I fear the dark hole well shallow me whole. I fear that on..."

I have some of the same fears Jamie. You're not the only one that feels that way.

I could probably list a few more but for right now I don't want to think about anymore of my fears. :/ it would be a good poem...

yeah i guess most people do. but they just feel so...personal i guess. because maybe we all have the same fears in words. but our fears are all different personally i guess. do you know what i mean?

I fear that this wonderful guy in my life is wasting his best years on me. I don't think he realizes exactly how emotionally damaged I really am and how I will never be capable of the kind of relationship he wants. Although I have tried to tell him.

Nora aka Diva wrote: "I fear that this wonderful guy in my life is wasting his best years on me. I don't think he realizes exactly how emotionally damaged I really am and how I will never be capable of the kind of relat..."

Just go with the flow. Don't pick it apart, stitch it together.... Holy crap that was lame. Someone slap me.

I meant the whole go with the flow thing though. I used to tell myself, "its an interesting life experience" whenever I was scared of something or didn't fully understand the situation I was in.
That phrase is actually one of my tattoos.

I am, have been. He actually dated someone for awhile but it didn't work out for them so here he & I are again. I guess you could say friends with benefits, it's all I'm willing to offer. It's all I am capable of.

Alex (Al) wrote: "Jamie, God will never hate you. God loves us, He tells us everyday. All we have to do is listen. :]

I had my first kiss at 14 and it led to bad stuff. You'll find the right guy for you, a guy who ..."

*gasp*...May the Force be with you Al.

Alex, Never apologize for being yourself.

Nora aka Diva wrote: "Alex, Never apologize for being yourself."

:-) This is excellent advice.

Becca wrote: "I used to tell myself, "its an interesting life experience" whenever I was scared of something or didn't fully understand the situation I was in.
That phrase is actually one of my tattoos. "

You have a tattoo of the phrase "It's an interesting life experience" ?

Alex (Al) wrote: "Lol, I have two more exams left. The one I just took was super easy. All that fretting for nothing. See, Jamie! That's like most things in life for me. I fear something and fret over it and then wh..."

Sometimes I fear that I hurt people before they can hurt me. I fear that the one person who could ever love me, I've let go. I fear that he was the one. I also fear that no one could understand my reason for God hating me. I damn him because when I feared the most...he was never there.

God can't hate you because God isn't real. Humans created Gods and then the single God as a way to explain that which they do not understand.

Dustin Crazy little brown owl wrote: "Nora aka Diva wrote: "Alex, Never apologize for being yourself."

:-) This is excellent advice."

well thank you.

Alex (Al) wrote: "God is real.

And that's all I'm going to say on that matter. i don't want to get into a huge debate. ..."

I disagree and that's all I have to say about it too.

bahaha lets just agree to disagree!

Jamie wrote: "bahaha lets just agree to disagree!"

Now that's something I Can agree with. :)

You'll do great on your test Al! I hate that fear of the same nightmare its so terrible when it does happen