Sanjay

“Can we, after all, love someone who seems to us to be perfect, someone who seems to us to have everything? Isn’t it often the case that although we may be fascinated or captivated by someone who appears to have only good qualities, we only begin to love him or her from the moment we suspect that he or she is somewhat (if not deeply) unhappy, quite clueless about something, rather awkward, clumsy, or helpless? Isn’t it in his or her nonmastery or incompleteness that we see a possible place for ourselves in his or her affections – that is, that we glimpse the possibility that we may be able to do something for that person, be something to that person? In this sense, we perhaps love not what they have, but what they do not have; moreover, we show our love by giving what we ourselves do not have.”
― Bruce Fink, Lacan on Love: An Exploration of Lacan's Seminar VIII, Transference

“Psychologist John Sweller’s Cognitive Load Theory (1998) explains why even small stressors can feel unbearable when your brain is already overloaded. Your brain has a limited capacity for processing information at any given moment. When too much stress or decision-making is competing for mental space, your brain struggles to function efficiently.”
― Daniel Chidiac, Stop Letting Everything Affect You: How to Break Free from Overthinking, Emotional Chaos, and Self-Sabotage

“Man is the creature who does not know what to desire, and he turns to others in order to make up his mind. We desire what others desire because we imitate their desires.”
― René Girard

“In problems set at school we are so used to being given only the information that we need for that problem that we actually leave school believing that life will carefully lay out the information we need in every situation. Unfortunately, life does not do that. There are times when we might have to put aside some information in order to move forwards. This requires thinking.”
― Edward de Bono, Teach Yourself to Think