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“The enormous difference between the relationships you need, and the one you deeply want. The need is created out of an accumulation of negativities, planted by traumatic experiences: fear, doubts, anxiety, dependence, weakness in certain realms, inadequacy, incompleteness. A certain relationship can remove the fear, calm anxiety, supply a certain completion, replace a loss, fulfill an organic insufficiency, lull an insecurity, supply a substitute love.”
― Anaïs Nin, The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Vol. 3: 1939-1944

“There was in me confusion between love and devotion. I thought all my acts were acts of love, yielding up of the self, the personal. But I did feel hurt that they were all willing to immolate me, and felt unloved according to my own definition of love: sacrifice.”
― Anaïs Nin, The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Vol. 3: 1939-1944

“I don’t look back with any pleasure at the sacrifices I made. I consider it time wasted. Whereas I do not think it time wasted to be idle, to dream, to play. Very much the contrary, I think.”
― Anaïs Nin, The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Vol. 3: 1939-1944

“We are cruel when someone refuses to play the role in which we have cast him. We judge a person only according to his relationship towards us.”
― Anaïs Nin, The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Vol. 3: 1939-1944