Lydia Choi

“Going high is about learning to keep the poison out and the power in.”
― Michelle Obama, The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times

“tendency to believe someone’s actions reflect who they are rather than the circumstances. When someone makes a mistake, we interpret the misstep as revealing something essential, and essentially bad, about that person’s character. We don’t look for external reasons to explain the behavior.”
― Logan Ury, How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science of Finding Love

“Our hurts become our fears. Our fears become our limits. For many of us, this can be a heavy inheritance, carried by generations. It’s a lot to try to push back against, to try to unlearn.”
― Michelle Obama, The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times

“If you choose to try to make a life with another person, you will live by that choice. You'd find yourself having to choose again and again to remain rather than run. It helps if you enter into a committed relationship prepared to work, ready to be humbled and willing to accept and even enjoy living in that in-between space, bouncing between the poles of beautiful and horrible, sometimes in the span of a single conversation, sometimes over the course of years. And inside of that choice and those years you'll almost certainly come to see that there is no such thing as a 50-50 balance, instead it will be like beads on an abacus, sliding back and forth, the maths rarely tidy, the equation never quite solved....”
― Michelle Obama, The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times