Ramsha Awan

I just feel this on another level. I got married into a very conservative family and they believe highly of gender roles that my family doesn’t believe in. My parents (both mom and dad) pushed me to graduate and get a job. They never made me clean up or learn how to cook because they knew that I was more of an academic and genuinely enjoyed studying and working towards my career goals. When I got married it was so incredibly hard for me to adjust to that life style and then 3 months in, I gave up. I told my husband I can’t do this housewife thing anymore. I needed a job, I needed something of my own. And alas, I finally got a job. I felt way more like myself again, I was happy again. So important to talk about these things before and after you get married, especially in our South asian communities where it is expected of a girl to be a good housewife, a good daughter in law etc.