Michael Quinn

“There is nothing that harshness does that loving firmness doesn’t do better.”
― Terrence Real, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

“In the same vein, if you don’t fear your own anger, you’ll be able to stay Self-led when someone’s angry at you. The person’s judgment of you won’t trigger your own inner critics, because you know who you are, and because those critical parts of you have retired or taken on new roles. So many of the obstacles in our relationships are because we fear the mayhem that someone else’s behavior will create in our inner systems. When Self leads, the mayhem is gone. The”
― Richard C. Schwartz, No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model

“Conflict is connection. It’s how we figure out who we are, what we want, who our partners are and who they are becoming, and what they want. It’s how we bridge our differences and find our similarities, our points of connection. The problem is, we haven’t been taught how to do it right.”
― Julie Schwartz Gottman, Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection

“Free from all thoughts of 'I' and 'mine', a man finds absolute peace.”
― Bhagavad Gita