David

“My Shadow was not evil; it was the defense against being myself, my own—apparently risky, apparently too costly—self.”
― James Hollis, Why Good People Do Bad Things: Understanding Our Darker Selves

“but I am further persuaded that sex (and its accompanying fantasy of romantic love) is now carrying the burden of much of our lost spirituality.”
― James Hollis, Why Good People Do Bad Things: Understanding Our Darker Selves

“For this reason, our adult relationships have a strong tendency toward repetition of early family-of-origin dynamics.”
― James Hollis, Why Good People Do Bad Things: Understanding Our Darker Selves

“Generally speaking, people are drawn toward intimate relationships either because they are opposites who will compensate each other, or because they are complementary, which means that not only their conscious likes and dislikes line up, but their complexes as well.”
― James Hollis, Why Good People Do Bad Things: Understanding Our Darker Selves