Brandi George

“I recently walked away from a friendship with a person I cared very much about (and continue to care a lot about) because my emotional needs were not being met, largely because she didn’t seem to think my company was worth seeking out. I do need to feel like a relationship has a similar level of affection on both ends to feel comfortable.” —SCIATRIX, WRITING FROM FACTOR X”
― Julie Sondra Decker, The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

“Non-LGBT asexual people aren’t saying they have an identical or worse experience when compared to LGBTQ people. They are saying they often feel omitted, erased, and excluded and that they move through life facing consistent challenges to their sexual orientation.”
― Julie Sondra Decker, The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

“Asexuality is a sexual orientation because it describes a person’s pattern of attraction (to no one). Asexuality is a mature state because it isn’t a term for what a person is before they develop their sexual orientation. Asexuality is a description because it is a word for explaining an experience, not a decision or a choice. Asexuality is a healthy status because it is not considered a mental or physical illness to not desire, pursue, or feel attraction that leads to sex. And it is a reasonable possibility because feeling sexual attraction or inclination toward others is not the default.”
― Julie Sondra Decker, The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

“To concede that there are two forms of desire—cross-sex and same-sex desire—is to recognize the analytic possibility of at least four kinds of persons. These include: (1) those who harbor cross-sex but not same-sex desire; (2) those who harbor same-sex but not cross-sex desire; (3) those who harbor both forms of desire; and (4) those who harbor neither form of desire. Yet even those who acknowledge that orientation arrays itself on a continuum spanning the first three categories often ignore the fact that the continuum fails to represent the fourth.” (Yoshino, 2000)”
― Julie Sondra Decker, The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality