“Was I kind to others? It was hard to nail down an answer. I worried that if I did turn out to have a personality, it would be one of the unkind ones. Did I only worry about this question because as a woman I felt required to put the needs of others before my own? Was “kindness” just another term for submission in the face of conflict? These were the kind of things I wrote about in my diary as a teenager: as a feminist I have the right not to love anyone.”
― Conversations with Friends
― Conversations with Friends
“How come the past tense is always longer?”
― Time Is a Mother
― Time Is a Mother
“Gradually the waiting began to feel less like waiting and more like this was simply what life was: the distracting tasks undertaken while the thing you are waiting for continues not to happen.”
― Conversations with Friends
― Conversations with Friends
“Don't we touch each other just to prove we're still here?”
― Night Sky with Exit Wounds
― Night Sky with Exit Wounds
“I think I only appear smart by staying quiet as often as possible.”
― Conversations with Friends
― Conversations with Friends
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