Cheri Head

“Anyone who has shared something personal and received a thoughtless or uncomprehending response knows how it makes your soul want to crawl back in its hiding place. Whether someone is confessing a misdeed, proposing an idea, sharing a dream, revealing an anxiety, or recalling a significant event—that person is giving up a piece of him or herself. And if you don’t handle it with care, the person will start to edit future conversations with you, knowing, “I can’t be real with this person.”
― Kate Murphy, You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters

“J. Pierpont Morgan said, “A man always has two reasons for what he does—a good one, and the real one.”
― Kate Murphy, You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters

“In Notes from Underground, Fyodor Dostoyevsky wrote, “Every man has some reminiscences which he would not tell to everyone, but only to his friends.”
― Kate Murphy, You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters

“Intervention strategies like Circle of Security, Group Attachment-Based Intervention, and Attachment and Biobehavioral Catch-Up essentially teach parents of young children how to listen and respond to their babies and toddlers before dysfunctional neural patterns get grooved into their tiny developing brains—that is, before children develop lifelong anxious and/or avoidant approaches to relationships. While the programs focus on helping parents listen to their kids, participants report using the same strategies to improve their relationships with spouses, coworkers, and friends.”
― Kate Murphy, You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters