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“From the time of the initial contact the abusive man is already beginning the abuse of the target woman. Firstly he is seeking a woman who exhibits some particular characteristics. Even before he begins to make contact with her he has already decided what sort of partner he is seeking. This decision is built on a belief that the relationship he seeks is one where he will be in charge. So it is disrespectful of these men to suggest that they are in an abusive relationship by chance. The truth is that the relationship they are in is the result of careful monitoring of the type of person they target.”
― Don Hennessy, How He Gets Into Her Head: The Mind of the Male Intimate Abuser

“These tactics are initiated if the abuser wants to explore the possibility of a lasting relationship and if he feels that the particular woman would be susceptible to such tactics.”
― Don Hennessy, How He Gets Into Her Head: The Mind of the Male Intimate Abuser

“…it is easier for us to examine the behaviour of the victim than it is for us to challenge the perpetrator. This may be because the victim, be it male or female, is more likely to present to our services and thus become a burden on our resources. As a community we try to limit our involvement by getting the victim to cooperate in his/her own safety. When the abuse continues we conveniently blame the victim for his/her lack of cooperation.”
― Don Hennessy, How He Gets Into Her Head: The Mind of the Male Intimate Abuser

“This target woman is a woman who will put the needs of her partner before her own.”
― Don Hennessy